Open letter from an old religion teacher * to young girls on "women's sexuality and the Bible."

By Michael Preuschoff, Graduate Theologian

This is a translation by the google-translater from "Offener Brief eines alten Religionslehrers an junge Mädchen über die weibliche Sexualität und die Bibel".
Here is the pdf file.

"Freedom is a beautiful thing. And part of freedom and sexual self-determina­tion. However, an encouragement to sexual self-determination while suppres­sing any attractive alternative (for sex)or the silence at all to this whole issue can be seen only as acrudest manipulation."

For details on the title screen, see page 5

*) To the "old religion teacher: If the money comes from alone because he is retired, he no longer needs to adhere to the curriculum, but can only do what he considers important for real for young people .

"I do no one has said," or "for no one sees in charge" have this or something like that to me sometimes students responded when I confused asked why they those could go for them so obviously stupid relationships, of which I mitbekam something. And if they did not know how they are vergackeiert and what can come of it.
Well, I would like to see responsible and try to be good decision-making tools.

Preliminary remarks:

Summary

Part A: Religion and Morality to the Individual

Introduction: Dear young ladies! I'm now very sorry, but because I had once done something very wrong …

1. The "really special" in our Christian religion.

2. What makes the people - God or money, or what?

3. About love and about the assessment of women in Buddhism.

4. The assessment of the ability of women to be faithful in Islam.

5. The tale of the sexual self-determination of the girls with us.There is no fundamental difference of attitude in Buddhism and Islam. For us it's just different.

6. The model works with traditional moral anxieties. The high is good for sexual morality of love?

7. Man is born to love - but to live by this, his assessment is needed after all the freedom.

8. If previous experience, but useful!

9. Why not try one first women's sexuality?

10. The perfect couple: Proud Virgin looks chivalrous macho
    
    Part B: Religion and Morality in a larger context

    1. The philosophical (and political!) Dimension of this approach.

    2. Approach to the theology of the book: The biblical story of salvation as a commitment to paradise destructive machismo.
    a) Against the religious machismo.
    b) against the machismo of the slaveholders' way
    c) Against the criminal machismo.
    d) And now? Against the (pseudo) scientific machismo.
    
    Conclusion of the old religion teacher: In which religion is really about the love of freedom?

    
    Summary (as per the flyer for this book - and with additional thoughts)

    
    Epilogue - especially for educators and theologians.

This brochure is, of course, did not occur "overnight". It is the resultof safely 50 years of tinkering. These now include not only the study of theology and a thirty-year teaching practice as a religiousteacher, but also many conversa­tions with friends and critics.Some helped with good tips and advice ("this and that is stillinside") and the other made ​​me more aware of indirect gaps.
I thank everyone for their help and for your commitment!
Especially motivates me to continue my students have someadvice as: "Your ideas are not even wrong. But they should go to the elementary schools, be­cause for us it's too late ... "
Indirectly, these students have told it that would have what shown here if you only knew.
In contrast, most adults I know of only excuses why it's not that theyoung people about everything before throwing to the winds whenthey reach puberty.
All I can say is that it's something like a combat soldier of a difference whether these soldiers with an incongruous concept, or even wrong fight in the war or send a meaningful concept. And hereit is not even a combat mission, because it is the desire forharmony, but the most natural thing in the world!

This desire also to express the cover: "ball-playing young couple"in the market place well in Varberg (southern Sweden). It's certainlynot just a ball game: young people, enabling them to deal with each other, play quite well with the Globe!

The concept: I have a growing impression that it is the concept of Jesus is a kind of youth religion, it was about, in a period of decline, so in a decadent time, young people, the prospect of highmorale and high to give love. Yes, what is that other than decaywhen held up to be just harmless things in sexuality as somethingsinful and "weger attracted" the young people it is reallyproblematic and is accepted as something normal? And yet todaywe have the same problems: the elderly today just want a little like the old time a change! So the concern of Jesus fit today - exactly!

And if Christianity is a religion mor for young people, why is it so much of death and the overcoming of death mentioned? It's simple: death and sin in the Bible are very often identical terms, so things are very often not the conti­nuation of life but a life without sin, so to Paradise. To the death at the end of life, it is mainly because more and more "old people" call the shots and for them life after death after all is the more urgent problem.

Part A: Religion and Morality to the Individual

Introduction: Dear young ladies! I'm now very sorry, but because I had once done something very wrong ...
It is long since over 40 years ... And although I had told in my religious educa­tion among girls in the first high school class about other religions and also that our Christianity is the only true religion.It was then I asked a girl: "Well, if I do my very besehe are probably the priests in other religions, their followers say the same thing that they have the only true religion. My question now is: How can you tell for now, which is really the true religion "
Granted, I reacted totally wrong, I began to grumble at, that it was now so that even children no longer believe in our religion - and that's it. Yes, I did not have a reasonable answer given at that time.
This was what had prompted this girl, but very reasonable, and it had really thought about it and well, and the question would also have led to precisely the crucial point, namely, what so special about our religion and it is this Jesus .
But I had just fallen into the trap that there are no stupid questions, only stupid answers.
And I was just responding to a clever question totally wrong, yes it was a mistake from me. This error should not leave me in all my other life going on. This girl from back then I can no longer ask for forgiveness, but today's children may also have this question, and I did some searching and I would now try to answer this question properly.

1. The "really special" in our Christian religion.
If I's to think about it: what we hold in general, so for something special in our Christian religion, which exists in other religions, at least by and large too! And every time I think I found something that is in our religion that great, but I find out at some point that it is this principle elsewhere, or at least once were!
Of course. In a god or several gods you believe in other religions.But in one God as ours? I was talking once with Hindus, so with people from India, whe­re even supposedly believes in many gods, and they addressed it. "No, no," they said, "We believe in one God, but we can not prescribe to God even as he reveals himself to us.He shows us so many other beings after all, many people will see where other gods. In reality, it's always about the one. "
Well, yes and so like we are seeing it with our Trinity - again, it's always about the same God who shows us once in three persons.
There is nothing special with this!
But how is it that God sent his Son to us by the Holy Spirit comes to a virgin who is pregnant by then and have a baby? Oh, also exists in other religions, not just the same, but something like that. Think about why our continent "Eu­rope" means. So there was allegedly once the god Zeus, the supreme god of the ancient Greeks, who was very greedy for sex and had like to have sex with beautiful earthly women. And the pleasure was found in the beautiful princess Europa who romped around with her friends at the beach. To get at them, he disguised himself as a bull, which he could as an omnipotent God, yes, and so approached the young women, and realized after a while even that it was a nice bull, and they played with him. Yes, swam with him into the water, the princess Europa on his back. When they were once a little further out, so that Europe could not swim back so easy, he swam further and further towards the open sea and then the kidnapped princess - then to a deserted island. He then had sex with her, and she bore them a hybrid creature, half human and half animal, a very strange story. In any case, the ancient Greeks believed that - and also that of our continent, therefore, is in honor of Princess 'Europe'.
Well, the Holy Spirit that everything was now significantly different, which was a virgin not Sexgier, but to send us a Savior. But somehow there is already something of this ancient religion.
And even with the miracles, the resurrection of the Son of God and His ascen­sion into heaven, so even with the life after death in a future paradise that all there is about the same or at least as well as in other religions. Sometimes even agree details, such as it is the wine god Dionysus, the ancient Greeks and Romans, a story where the god of water into wine, or the Buddhists, there is a kind of purgatory where the dead come only once and where she then some time for her to atone for sins unpunished lifetime.
We believe, too, that Jesus died for the forgiveness of our sins.Forgiveness is now also in other religions, which if not also to the atoning death of a god's son was needed. But why Jesus had to die for us? If God is omnipotent, he can not grant this forgiveness without such sacrifice his son? Here, too, now Protestant and Catholic theology professors have found that the atoning death of Jesus for the forgiveness of sins or the guilt that is not probably was.

2. Second What makes the people - God or money, or what?
As much now obviously is not true, what will you as telling about the Christian religion, or at least very questionable, and since everything's been so long ago, so that we can ask no one who was "there", let's start again quite diffe­rently!
Yearn for what young people really are just the most?
I had to leave in a class of 15-year-old boy who once write down what they imagined to happiness - and anonymously, without giving names.
And it was for me but very interesting that most of the same kind of writing - not that we had previously talked about. And they had copied from each other not - but they were too busy, to finally get rid of what they wanted.
It was about the love!
No, the boy wrote, it would not only about sex, she wanted a girl who could talk to, so we can use to have a real nice relationship.
If this is nothing! But instead of giving young people meaningful recommen­dations for a knowledge of human nature, as it could lead to a fulfillment of their ideals, we talk with them little or not at all about it. Or they are conside­red a priori incapable of a proper understanding of human nature and gives them condoms for your own taste. So it is more likely today.
Or you do not even want to see for yourself, because you want them to marry someone you even want to. So that was sooner.
What's wrong?
To get to Jesus: What was the situation of people in his time? How they lived? Or: What was the time or running on this issue today in other cultures, other religions?
Let's take this at once!

3. About love and about the assessment of women in Buddhism.
It should not even go to the religion of Buddhism. Which may indeed be very great and wonderful and vintage high with many thoughts.
But the question we should ask again: How are the Buddhists to sexuality, what they think of the women, what about the girls?
I found this a blatant history. And though it's about the old issue of whether women can be faithful to love if only a man can.
This story is very interesting, as in Buddhism, so in a religion that is highly appreciated by many people for us, the women are seen.
Let's look at this story that is even closer!
Notes: It is important that readers or listeners know what is sex - and that at issue in this story. And then it goes into this story of a dice oracle, so that whoever wins the dice game, with some claim that he speaks straight is right. It is also interesting that a man of a woman he recognizes as a pregnant woman on the street, "buy" their child obviously can. Or that someone is under a woman, he is her son and also accepted the - Child suspensions must have been in this culture that is so common, so that one could expect that almost every woman something "behind" had. States must have been that! And another thing: "priest", "chaplain," "Monk," "Brahmin" means the same. So also, "king" and "Bodhisattva".

No. 62. (copy from http://www.sacred-texts.com/bud/j1/j1065.htm)

AṆḌABHŪTA-JĀTAKA.

"Blindfold, a-luting."--This story was told by the Master while at Jetavana, about another passion-tost person.

Said the Master, "Is the report true that you are passion-tost, Brother?" "Quite true," was the reply.

"Brother, women can not be warded; in days gone by the wise who kept watch over a woman from the moment she was born, failed nevertheless to keep her safe." And so saying, he told this story of the past.

Once on a time when Brahmadatta was reigning in Benares, the Bodhisatta came to life as the child of the Queen-consort. When he grew up, he mastered every accomplishment; and when, at his father's death, he came to be king, he proved a righteous king. Now he used to play at dice with his chaplain, and, as he flung the golden dice upon the silver table, he would sing this catch for luck:--

’Tis nature's law that rivers wind;
Trees grow of wood by law of kind;
And, given opportunity,
All women work iniquity.

As these lines always made the king win the game, the chaplain was in a fair way to lose every penny he had in the world. And, in order to save himself from utter ruin, he resolved to seek out a little maid that had never seen another man, and then to keep her under lock and key in his own house. "For," thought he, "I couldn't manage to look after a girl who has seen another man. So I must take a new-born baby girl, and keep her under my thumb as she grows up, with a close guard over her, so that none may come near her and that she may be true to one man. Then I shall win of the king, and grow rich." Now he was skilled in prognostication; and seeing a poor woman who was about to become a mother, and knowing that her child would be a girl, he paid the woman to come and be confined in his house, and sent her away after her confinement with a present. The infant was brought up entirely by women, and no men--other than himself--were ever allowed to set eyes on her. When the girl grew up, she was subject to him and he was her master.

Now, while the girl was growing up, the chaplain forbore to play with the king; but when she was grown up and under his own control,

he challenged the king to a game. The king accepted, and play began. But, when in throwing the dice the king sang his lucky catch, the chaplain added,--"always excepting my girl." And then luck changed, and it was now the chaplain who won, while the king lost.

Thinking the matter over, the Bodhisatta suspected the chaplain had a virtuous girl shut up in his house; and enquiry proved his suspicions true. Then, in order to work her fall, he sent for a clever scamp, and asked whether he thought he could seduce the girl. "Certainly, sire," said the fellow. So the king gave him money, and sent him away with orders to lose no time.

With the king's money the fellow bought perfumes and incense and aromatics of all sorts, and opened a perfumery shop close to the chaplain's house. Now the chaplain's house was seven stories high, and had seven gateways, at each of which a guard was set,--a guard of women only,--and no man but the brahmin himself was ever allowed to enter. The very baskets that contained the dust and sweepings [291] were examined before they were passed in. Only the chaplain was allowed to see the girl, and she had only a single waiting-woman. This woman had money given her to buy flowers and perfumes for her mistress, and on her way she used to pass near the shop which the scamp had opened. And he, knowing very well that she was the girl's attendant, watched one day for her coming, and, rushing out of his shop, fell at her feet, clasping her knees tightly with both hands and blubbering out, "O my mother! where have you been all this long time?"

And his confederates, who stood by his side, cried, "What a likeness! Hand and foot, face and figure, even in style of dress, they are identical!" As one and all kept dwel­ling on the marvellous likeness, the poor woman lost her head. Crying out that it must be her boy, she too burst into tears. And with weeping and tears the two fell to embra­cing one another. Then said the man, "Where are you living, mother?"

"Up at the chaplain's, my son. He has a young wife of peerless beauty, a very goddess for grace; and I'm her waiting-woman." "And whither away now, mother?" "To buy her perfumes and flowers." "Why go elsewhere for them? Come to me for them in future," said the fellow. And he gave the woman betel, bdellium, and so forth, and all kinds of flowers, refusing all payment. Struck with the quantity of flowers and perfu­mes which the waiting-woman brought home, the girl asked why the brahmin was so pleased with her that day. "Why do you say that, my dear?" asked the old woman. "Because of the quantity of things you have brought home." "No, it isn't that the brahmin was free with his money," said the old woman; "for I got them at my son's." And from that day forth she kept the money the brahmin gave her, and got her flowers and other things free of charge at the man's shop.

And he, a few days later, made out to be ill, and took to his bed. So when the old wo­man came to the shop and asked for her son, she was told he had been taken ill. Hastening to his side, she fondly stroked his shoulders, as she asked what ailed him. But he made no reply. "Why don't you tell me, my son?" "Not even if I were dying, could I tell you, mother." "But, if you don't tell me, [292] whom are you to tell?" "Well then, mother, my malady lies solely in this that, hearing the praises of your young mistress's beauty, I have fallen in love with her. If I win her, I shall live; if not, this will be my death-bed." "Leave that to me, my boy," said the old woman cheerily; "and don't worry yourself on this account." Then--with a heavy load of perfumes and flowers to take with her--she went home, and said to the brahmin's young wife, "Alas! here's my son in love with you, merely because I told him how beautiful you are! What is to be done?"

"If you can smuggle him in here," replied the girl, "you have my leave."

Hereupon the old woman set to work sweeping together all the dust she could find in the house from top to bottom; this dust she put into a huge flower-basket, and tried to pass out with it. When the usual search was made, she emptied dust over the woman on guard, who fled away under such ill-treatment. In like manner she dealt with all the other watchers, smothering in dust each one in turn that said anything to her. And so it came to pass from that time forward that, no matter what the old woman took in or out of the house, there was nobody bold enough to search her. Now was the time! The old woman smuggled the scamp into the house in a flower-basket, and brought him to her young mistress. He succeeded in wrecking the girl's virtue, and actually stayed a day or two in the upper rooms,--hiding when the chaplain was at home, and enjoying the society of his mistress when the chaplain was off the premises. A day or two passed and the girl said to her lover, "Sweet-heart, you must be going now." "Very well; only I must cuff the brahmin first." "Certainly," said she, and hid the scamp. Then, when the brahmin came in again, she exclaimed, "Oh, my dear husband, I should so like to dance, if you would play the lute for me." "Dance away, my dear," said the chaplain, and struck up forthwith. "But I shall be too ashamed, if you're looking. Let me hide your handsome face first with a cloth; and then I will dance." "All right," said he; "if you're too modest to dance otherwise." So she took a thick cloth and tied it over the brahmin's face so as to blindfold him. And, blindfolded as he was, the brahmin began to play the lute. After dancing awhile, she cried, "My clear, I should so like to hit you once on the head." "Hit away," said the unsuspecting dotard. Then the girl made a sign to her paramour; and he softly stole up behind the brahmin [293] and smote him on the head.

Such was the force of the blow, that the brahmin's eyes were like to start out of his head, and a bump rose up on the spot. Smarting with pain, he called to the girl to give him her hand; and she placed it in his. "Ah! it's a soft hand," said he; "but it hits hard!"

Now, as soon as the scamp had struck the brahmin, he hid; and when he was hidden, the girl took the bandage off the chaplain's eyes and rubbed his bruised head with oil. The moment the brahmin went out, the scamp was stowed away in his basket again by the old woman, and so carried out of the house. Making his way at once to the king, he told him the whole adventure.

Accordingly, when the brahmin was next in attendance, the king proposed a game with the dice; the brahmin was willing; and the dicing-table was brought out. As the king made his throw, he sang his old catch, and the brahmin--ignorant of the girl's naughtiness--added his "always excepting my girl,"--and nevertheless lost!

Then the king, who did know what had passed, said to his chaplain, "Why except her? Her virtue has given way. Ah, you dreamed that by taking a girl in the hour of her birth and by placing a sevenfold guard round her, you could be certain of her. Why, you couldn't be certain of a woman, even if you had her inside you and always walked about with her. No woman is ever faithful to one man alone. As for that girl of yours, she told you she should like to dance, and having first blindfolded you as you played the lute to her, she let her paramour strike you on the head, and then smuggled him out of the house. Where then is your exception?" And so saying, the king repeated this stanza:--

Blindfold, a-luting, by his wife beguiled,
The brahmin sits,--who tried to rear
A paragon of virtue undefiled!
Learn hence to hold the sex in fear.

[294] In such wise did the Bodhisatta expound the Truth to the brahmin. And the brahmin went home and taxed the girl with the wickedness of which she was accused. "My dear husband, who can have said such a thing about me?" said she. "Indeed I am innocent; indeed it was my own hand, and nobody else's, that struck you; and, if you do not believe me, I will brave the ordeal of fire to prove that no man's hand has touched me but yours; and so I will make you believe me." "So be it," said the brahmin. And he had a quantity of wood brought and set light to it. Then the girl was summoned. "Now," said he, "if you believe your own story, brave these flames!"

Now before this the girl had instructed her attendant as follows:--"Tell your son, mother, to be there and to seize my hand just as I am about to go into the fire." And the old woman did as she was bidden; and the fellow came and took his stand among the crowd. Then, to delude the brahmin, the girl, standing there before all the people, exclaimed with fervour, "No man's hand but thine, brahmin, has ever touched me; and, by the truth of my asseveration I call on this fire to harm me not." So saying, she advanced to the burning pile,--when up dashed her paramour, who seized her by the hand, crying shame on the brahmin who could force so fair a maid to enter the flames! Shaking her hand free, the girl exclaimed to the brahmin that what she had asserted was now undone, and that she could not now brave the ordeal of fire. "Why not?" said the brahmin. "Because," she replied, "my asseveration was that no man's hand but thine had ever touched me; [295] and now here is a man who has seized hold of my hand!" But the brahmin, knowing that he was tricked, drove her from him with blows.

Such, we learn, is the wickedness of women. What crime will they not commit; and then, to deceive their husbands, what oaths will they not take--aye, in the light of day--that they did it not! So false-hearted are they! Therefore has it been said:--

A sex composed of wickedness and guile,
Unknowable; uncertain as the path
Of fishes in the water,--womankind
Hold truth for falsehood, falsehood for the truth!
As greedily as cows seek pastures new,
Women, unsated, yearn for mate on mate.
As sand unstable, cruel as the snake,
Women know all things; naught from them is hid!

"Even so impossible is it to ward women," said the Master. His lesson ended, he preached the Truths, at the close whereof the passion-test Brother won the Fruit of the First Path. Also the Master showed the connexion and identified the Birth by saying:--"In these days I was the king of Benares."

[Note. The cuffing of the brahmin is the subject of a Bharhut sculpture, Plate 26, 8. For a parallel to the trick by which the girl avoids the ordeal of fire, see Folklore 3. 291.]

Please, dear reader, are now discussing the solution together! The thesis is that women (and girls) are not a single man can be faithful, proved unfounded? And if not, where is the mistake?
The solution can be found at http://basisreligion.reliprojekt.de/loesung.htm.

(Here the solution for non Germans: The relation of the priest and the girl was a father-daughter relation! And the priest should behave like a father – but he didn´t, he behaved like al lover. And of course the girl was not happy with him - so he was guilty!)

4. The assessment of the ability of women to be faithful in Islam.
Also in: we forget here the great and lofty words about religion! Let's look at the everyday life!
Yes, what to keep in the areas where Islam is the predominant religion, actu­ally on the ability to be faithful to the girls and women?
We often hear from the circumcision of girls in some African, Middle Eastern countries as well. And because that is being carried out on young girls, I think it is quite appropriate, when girls learn from us about it and deal with it.
What this actually circumcision? A journalist from the newspaper "Die Welt" in Egypt once asked a taxi driver if he had daughters, and also whether they were also circumcised. Three daughters, he would have answered the taxi driver, yes, they are circumcised, of course. "Why is that?" "Because circum­cision but without finding a husband." "What does this have to do with it?" "You can not otherwise be true ..." This kind of thinking is the background!
It is also clear to me that this circumcision has nothing to do with Islam - but: It is an indication that one does not trust women in Islam and that this problem only superficially, that is not the reason, solves.
To assess to what is included in the circumcision of girls is just now, and I quote once a conversation with a cropped harem girl from a biographical novel (as Chase-Riboud, "Seraglio", 1988):
"Like all women with us, I am circumcised," recalled the black Nur Banu, "and that the nature of the Phoenicians, the Hittites, the Egyptians and the Ethiopians. The Queen Nefertiti was circumcised. In my country there is . as a sign of beauty, propriety, the heat, the sweat, the constant rubbing of clothing against the skin would arouse sexual desire, and therefore we removed our race, it closes Otherwise, our mothers told us we would be ill,. itwould be the only way to preserve our health. In addition, it was a sin, young girls to leave the temptations of Satan. I was circumcised on the nature of the Pharaohs. Here, the clitoris is amputated, the labia minora and the inner part of the large, which are then stitched together. " Naksh-i-dil, trying to see what looked like a female, but there was only a closed fold.
"When I was seven years old, I was taken to the woman that my mother had put in charge of the operation." Nur Banu had brought a deep breath, as if she were about to plunge into an abyss from which they may never return would be. "When we began going under the sun, the woman hung up the kouss each girl leaves a particular nettle, a severe swelling elicited. My legs were open and held by two women. The blade was cleaned in melted butter, and my sex with butter and honey washed. Then it happened. One may be determined not to cry, but it always does. Then a date stone was inserted into the hole to make room remained for urination and for the menstrual period. On the following day removed the woman with a sharp knife, the swollen clitoris and all the flesh around it. Then she took a red-hot piece of wood from the fire and put on it to burn out the wound. At this moment came to assisting women in loud shouts of joy, which is also the purpose was, my screams to drown. This took the wound is not sewn together with acacia thorns, and the risk of bleeding is less. My legs were tied together, and I was from the waist up in bandages on his knees. I was several days stretched on a mat and waited for the healing began. On the eighth day I was allowed to return to my friends. We our first bath took in the Nile, the drums were beaten, chants filled the air, and we were showered with gifts. On the fortieth day was prescribed another bath in the Nile. Five thousand years ago, we sacrificed virgins living. Now we sacrifice only virgin sex ...
If, as often happens, the urethra is blocked, the whole process repeated. I was lucky, but my suffering was not over yet. On my wedding night, my hus­band had me with the help of a double-edged knife open, to be able to pene­trate and impregnate in me. It took me many times to create an approach that would not close again. Some husbands open their wives and leave them after each mating sew again. And when I gave birth, finally, the whole procedure had to be repeated, so that the child had enough room to slide through. But most clearly I remember the old woman with the whip, standing next to me during the surgery. As it happened, my mother gave a cry of joy, and broke the whip, and the others came up to me and screamed and danced and forced me to dance also.
There is another type of circumcision, which, if done skillfully, the participation of women does not affect the sex act. This is the excision, the feeling every­thing is resolved. The clitoris is an organ of pleasure and to be unnecessary for procreation. With the removal of the clitoris to prevent any excess before and after marriage. But virtually all women in Sudan and Egypt are circumci­sed like me ...
The Sultan had nothing from me, because everything in me was dead, every­thing is empty. I never receive pleasure or joy or comfort of a man. The men take drugs to prolong the act, not react because their wives and the women adorn their bodies with perfume and kofra. They try everything to make their husbands happy, because they are the masters, "Just said Banu.
Note: There are also traditions in which the inner walls of the vagina are scra­ped and bloody, then the legs are tied together, so everything is growing and the penetration of the penis is really so painful now, that no woman voluntarily join in it.
In this experience report is mentioned, why such cruelty blunt sometimes without anesthesia and with more or fewer blades and broken glass is prac­ticed: it is because the view (or perhaps better the prejudice and above all, the assumption) that the pruning strategy against the temptations of Satan is associated with what, is that for the morale of the girls and women is neces­sary simply because otherwise they get more or less automatically on the straight and narrow.
As far as other religions and cultures!
Note: This is not about making other religions or cultures bad! No, not really, not least because curtail many of the Coptic Christians in Egypt and Ethiopia, their wives and daughters as well. This is certainly an indication of the decline of Christian faith with these believers. But what it is in the Christian faith, on that later.

5. The tale of the sexual self-determination of the girls with us.There is no fundamental difference of attitude in Buddhism and Islam. For us it's just different.
Of course, we can find the settings described misogynist inhuman and reject it totally. No, there are such things only in "primitive and underdeveloped" cultu­res. In contrast, we consider ourselves enlightened, and even those bets as that between the king and this chaplain are unimaginable to us.

But oops: What was the reason for this bet, or what is the reason for the circumcision?
It was, or is it a question of whether girls and women can be faithful, whether they're trying to have sex only with one man and can decide whether they are capable or inclined to be a good partnership, "one love", that is to be real Loyalty?
Is this question for us now and that really solved in the sense of a "high morality" that they can and really want? One trusts them with us because these "high morale"?
Probably not! Why else we have to explain for the young girls, as they have to use contraceptives and condoms among them in particular?
Does that mean they not that we keep the girls incapable or too stupid for this high morality, so that they only want to be faithful to one man and can? Because condoms are used, too, to prevent infection with a sexually transmitted disease, and you can surely get only if you have sex with different partners, so if there is no loyalty to a single partner? The difference to so many other cultures is that any coercive measures apply to women and that on the other hand we do not even bother us, teach her something of a high morality, because the pack is not yet anyway! Therefore, we can instead run it all - and teach them only how to avoid unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases - some of the best full body condom!
Sure, we have everything, of course, excellent reasons, especially with res­pect to a change of partners also that there are in our sexual self-determina­tion and that people change over the course of her life just now again, that so they therefore can not be more mutually and adjust the lifelong loyalty is not easy. If I say something or students especially students, I've always asked back: "Or we have the beginning of the relationship is not good enough just being scrutinized, we have taken on the wrong thing, we wanted to know more details simply do not? Or do we have done something wrong from the start? "Yes, and because the young people voted for me already, so it could well be ...
The fact remains: Is the attitude towards women and girls with us and basi­cally exactly the same as in the East Asian and Middle Eastern and African nations?
But I would not want to stop there, who is in a particular case fault that we do this wrong, because if you so look around, that seems so agree, unfortunate­ly, somehow, what people there have always been, and still have in their heads .
But this would not be a meaningful book, if we left it at that and were not looking for a solution!
Maybe there are simple explanations of why all this is so, and that in reality is quite different and that we just do something very simple wrong? Often there are indeed things that you do not pay attention!
Together with a fellow engineer, I have now developed a model of girls' education, as it is practiced today, more or less as before in the whole world.
Make it once, but now that we talk so much of the sexual self-determination, but if children have fun at the nudity, then this sexual self-determination does not work anymore. After all this fun has to be expelled them in any case. And if the young people at some point later the same always "do" anything, then one must accept that, if not actually encourage, because that's indeed the sexual self-determination. That however well a consequence of this is that they had denied to young people up to that point in the sexual self-determi­nation, even trivialities like the nudity, that had driven them to this excessive morality almost in this sexual adventure, of course, no one wants true have. It would be my kids are very well even be able to assist in their actions, as it called for a child psychologist Alice Miller. Say no, that children are not receptive to advice on how to do something sensible!

6. The model works with traditional moral anxieties. Is good for the sexual morality of the great love?
We can safely assume that, above all, the young man - and especially the girls - is a high moral character and not want to be ahead of others as immo­ral since. In particular, very caring parents have then gone on a terrible fear that their beloved daughter could be a sex object for some idiots, and they want to prevent that.Actually, yes, the great starting points, which make up a good moral for the young people could be - yes, "really!" So now the parents of a daughter trying to influence the education of all this, what could make them into sex objects - they can just as well.
So that's an education to the nudity and sexual Cham. Finally, it looks just as if a sex object and nudity go together somehow advertise, not just prostitutes who are now really want to be sex objects and this too, with more or less refined, more revealing clothes? Yes, and before anything that looks even close to prostitution, including sex object, but we want to protect our daughters. (Note this: "Subtle-permissive" however, is not the same as "naked"!)
Let us see our caring education so that we get straight girls to build a wall around it -.. Against the "evil world" external not tell anyone that this is not so Are they at some point the young people not in a kind- eight-position that they are vehemently opposed to any exposure, so that they also still have all the things related to this wall, and finally can no longer speak freely? And it is quite clear to them that a bad man this wall when they do not want and of course that there is even an indication of his wickedness that he wants to tear down this wall. This work is tearing her opinion, of course, in such a way that the typical poor man questioned this wall, so that he is "about" talk or want to talk. And such a wall does not last too many stones, there are very many entries ...
Finally, this wall is even on their own parents, especially for girls to their father. If you have not heard that here, especially fathers, "something" "will" of their daughters? Or elsewhere in the education? In any case, this wall idea meant that even well-meaning educators did not dare to address such issues because it makes the young people under suspicion and mistrust can now once ill talk sense.
The problem now is that every wall is a wall to the outside to the inside, this wall will eventually also a kind of prison. The young man is so to speak, a self-supported, this time in "his morals," or rather in the morality of the society in which he lives!
But does this Einmauerei not permanently! For just a young girl happens to be a living and it just a sexual being and as such even now on the search for partners. In many cultures (and formerly also with us), the partners search works now so that you (ie especially the parents) at some point the door of this "prison" to go and at the same time offering a partner, of which one thinks fit, he could - andthen the partner search problem is solved. That means you at least. That is just in the cultures where marriages are donated in this way, always has a pronounced prostitution culture that is socially acceptable rather, and that prostitution culture with the partnership structures in this culture in general is linked is, of course, suppressed. Sure, what can not be, it is also not even seen!
And in a free society, how it works there with finding a partner?
The girls grow into puberty now come out not only the breasts and pubic hair, but also the urge out of this prison. It will come into contact with men wants to get to know men want to gain experience. Clearly, the experiences are very important! Wife has not heard of it, what is it for men or idiotic it might also observed even in the family, like his father but is not a particularly good husband (she has understood things from the mother)? And it has also learned that one that had not or can hardly see, but what turns out to be a time. What could be more natural than to explore before marriage, who now is a good man and who is not?
Yes, and you can not only find out or at best a trial marriage, or just "try" by, by temporarily co ... It is now once this stupid and annoying in the way of virginity, that the woman wants as quickly as possible behind them. No idea what women can do with the, say yes since all that is superfluous and outdated. This is actually just saying that those who have themselves behind him say, not what's really it.
The problem is, namely, that sex is no longer completely harmless and non-binding test, and it is not just a girl behind the more or the same as before. But just the possibility of a harmless and rather noncommittal testing are indeed blocked, so there is virtually an absolute blockade, because the nudity is considered immoral and disgusting, must of been fun to be no question. That was the tenor of the whole education so far. Stay left here not only of sexual intercourse, because he's got nothing to do with morality, as they say, and that may indeed happen, if necessary, under the covers or in the dark? And it also say all that needs to be - yes, "all", not least of these were "all" but also the same experience with the fear of nudity and sexual experiences? And for this "experience" then the person is taken to offer himself and succeeds in breaking through the hedge, or Sleeping Beauty just said Wall. And even if the experience with that was bad now, it is then considered to be the price that life goes on, that you find a good partner...
The very first sex a girl is thus probably never been a spontaneous act out of some instincts, but specifically planned.
Here, the nudity just for girls would be very well suited to identify precisely who they have the right to a cream puff or a protector, whom she can confide. Because the nudity certainly fall as the shells that we put around our character. But a natural relationship to nudity was so successfully stifled in education - and of course, the young man as well as participated in and adopted this attitude, he's a highly moral being!
So is the education for me against the shame and nudity in a free society, as we have it today! With a high morality (ie, a real moral of monogamy), the result has to be done at least nothing more for which is a training in sexual Cham almost entirely counterproductive.
And if today many parents say nothing and let it run, that does not mean they do not worry, but with them once the impression has now determined that these worries get anything anyway, and so they have only just abandoned.

7. Men are born to love - but to live by this, their assessment is needed after all the freedom.
Could it run at all different? Is that wrong with the connection of nudity and sexual object?
These can only say, yes and no. Clearly, nudity, while stupidity or ignorance is already dangerous. But even ignorance is just not a natural condition - the parents and other educators can still do something! And with a reasonable knowledge and cleverness nudity is equal to something completely different!
I remember one incident that I experienced with 7 ½ years ago, 1949th And while we were with my mother and my younger sister and a half years in Sylt, as had any disease that could be cured in the maritime climate, and in Wes­terland, there was a home where we could live. Also living there just my grandparents, who after escaping from East Prussia with the hand truck across the frozen Vistula Lagoon and then by ship across the Baltic Sea there found shelter, and also an uncle who had just returned from a Russian pri­soner of war.
If so then we all sat together on the beach, of course, beautiful "modestly dressed", even the grandmother in a black skirt and matching blouse discreet­ly patterned, there came a few times, two girls who might hardly be older than I, in our vicinity. And just a few meters from our "castle" they went out stark naked, put her clothes carefully folded on the sand, jumped into the shallow water, splashing around a bit, dried off, dressed themselves and went back again.
For details of course I know it does not, well I had not asked, it was just like that. Could but now I suppose that either their parents had gone along with a first visit to the beach and they are shown as a typical family had in their vicinity, they undress and completely in the water splashing, because we are not only do not but even automatically would take care of her. Or the parents had given them at the outset of the tip to pick at their beach walk a family like us, near which they could be just uninhibited Sun And we have seen but also for such a worthy family, father and mother and children and grandparents. In any case, I must have taken for granted while the intelligence with which the girls PREVAIL very impressed by that to this day I still remember it.
Please say no now, that "something" was possible then, and that no longer works! For it was then probably at least as bad as today when it comes to sexual maturity, and also we are still a lot of sensitized and strangers families would be at least as good as the time to take care of little girls. (By contrast, even I do not advise such girls to go to a secluded beach, and not in a bathing suit!)
Yes, why education is not right the first time, why not this questionable without going through the education to shame? Let's go on the assumption that it is children are even more highly moral beings - and we try to work with them instead of them to make such a pleasure to work against them and immoral!
So why not make everything run only once, as the kids want it, and at some point, even if it fits (and such a fit one can arrange!), Sensible talks begin immediately? And why should a sensible moral model in mind does not work, that young and old can live very well together and that, finally, the umbilical cord of young people very harmoniously and in mutual agreement can be done? It is this model different morality is so created it, that man is educated for freedom!
Practical and obvious of course it would, if the sexual Cham in the family would not be a problem and if all sometimes at an appropriate beach was the place where the usual - very easy for them to experience it once and get a feel for how beautiful the humanity and freedom, and if they do not perceive their bodies as something alien, but feel really comfortable in it. The idea is yes, if young people experience a harmony, they will also want to experience once with a beloved partner - and pick him then, if this succeeds.


8. If previous experience, but useful!
When choosing partners are the young people - and I want to highlight in particular the situation of girls, but wicked face a dilemma: Who is right? The problem is also quite different claims, which may be one of the girls a wonder­ful time may be different for a pure horror.
Let us just remember: One girl wants to be a beautiful and aspiring immelte doll, loves beautiful jewelry and wants a fancy house and traveling luxury hotel with the appropriate atmosphere and another girl is rather modest and would rather see the world and may still change, it is satisfied with everything, to know the main thing interesting and unusual experience new people.
And so could also go on throughout life, and those are only the extremes, there is still a wide scale in between ...
Of course, this would be the right partner makes sense with which to exchan­ge ideas and increase at the end of everything! But what if it caught a partner who is exactly sure what it wants, more of a millstone?
And also: First of all promise that they are such as the partner wants, but only in the practice of everyday life you can see who you really going on. And just when you want to do something hard, how can one really knows, because the partners are still with draws?
I know about a relationship that broke apart after about twenty years ago, the woman thought it was no longer easy. And "he" is actually a nice and loving man and she is an equally positive woman. Since the opportunity arose, I asked the woman why she has separated from her husband, I wanted to know from their perspective. Which was thus: "He has given me no real independence, has never spoken with me rationally, has treated me like his maid - and eventually I was just tired. He may be perfectly reasonable to talk to women when I see about how he deals with C (the wife of another friend, family) has, "Well, I've also asked C. what she thinks of the separation, and she answered.: "I understand the woman does not, he is a good man provides for his children, leaving even his wife's house, so that the children have a home, so I can not find the women's normal, I would like to know what is in the is gone, but earlier she was not so ... "
This is just one example.
And the wrong guy can catch not only the girls but also boys and men can just get the wrong thing. I know about a man who is totally annoyed by the qualities of his wife, households that can not, buying too much food and rot can be a big part, which has no order, which constantly changes and washes the clothes, even if it now really not necessary.
Of course, that's all a matter of attitude, another man would consider normal, even with his wife to be unhappy if this were not so.
Or one of the partners gets your teeth apart not really know you can not talk to him, he is particularly pleased lonely decisions. Maybe someone else has a better partner for him?
A woman complained that her husband is pure theorist, he catches everything in, but he does not make it right or too complicated and unrealistic, they all must eventually take their own hands.
Of course, you can indeed adjust like any other, especially if you're really in love, but keeps you in the long run this by?
Yes, to see what would not make himself as the partner, and what is not entirely objectionable, but you have to really get to know a little bit closer! Only by talking can not or only rarely close to reality!
Let us remember this: If both have the same opinion about something, it is not difficult to understand each other well. But what if you're of different opinion? And somebody has to give. Since there are now two possibilities:
First One realizes that he was not right and the other is even more grateful to have learned something and grown to be better. Or
Second One feels oppressed and there is dogmatic quarrels, and finally it is no longer the case.
So now you can clearly see whether one comes to the other.
And then there is still the problem of jealousy, and sometimes really morbid jealousy, a jealousy so, for there is simply no good reason.Even that can make life hell.
And with sexuality it's getting even more complicated: on the one hand it is a spontaneous attraction unit (about twice as "love" or "love" to paraphrase) is desired, which is so intense that they say raises any freedom of will over the pile on the other side is also a reason to be in the game, so there is an eternity of this attraction awareness - it is so desires something that is not usually agree with each other.
Of course, this incompatibility believe the young people do not realize they are at least initially hopeful that they themselves are the major exception that the relationship with them once everything is wonderful. And it can be really, that they themselves are the big exception ...
Yes, what can you do there, how do you get out in time who is the other and whether they fit really well together?
And one way to achieve this is after all a free choice - and a truly free choice is just too, that "you" or "women" are more or less long had looked closer, has and that includes now even the "experience" .
Especially in a free society needs the young man's experience, who is a suitable partner or not and he wants her too. And even if some clever adults with their skepticism about whether these experiences have to be to speak against it, then they can do what they want, they will resonate with young people is not so, at least not for long! It's just not that young people are clearly defined here.
The question arises, however, what kind of experience! If we are adults we therefore do not reflect and not condemn a priori all experience, but simply try to distinguish the experience to meaningless experiences that bring in the end only sorrow and pain, and to meaningful experiences that offer real benefits are and that one does not like to return afterwards and remember laughing at that one can? And so the real task would be how the young people away from meaningless experience and directing can be meaningful experience?
Under "experience" are now commonly understood relationships, which include sexual intercourse. It is generally not or hardly remember that after all this sex has nothing to do with meaningful experiences, because he is a cross-border long ago!
Finally, a girl loses virginity but only once, if so this is a meaningful experien­ce, if the state is behind another as before?
A student who had come across my site, told me of two friends who had made their first sexual experiences, bad experiences with the one it was so that she left the friend at the other it was to his friendleft - or rather the sexual partners because of his good friend was in neither case mentioned. Why is a boy or man left the girl who will probably always remain his secret, but why the other girl left the boy, I have not experienced it. But I know for reasons of another young woman.
Yes, it was "also a case in point." She wanted away from home. The mother, a widow, she made when she was girl's life, as she told me simply unbearable. And one of the reasons was thatcertificate or substitute morality with which the mother she just bugged, so how should they dress and behave, as a truly "high morale" was not the mother in the head and they never brought her so close. Then this young woman or the girl just wanted to get out of better home, just to get away - somewhere. Worse, it could not be anywhere else but - at least they thought.
And that was the only or at least the simplest way by law so to join a friend, whom she knew from somewhere, because she was not still 18 No, it was never love - more of a "mutual business": You're having me on and I'll stand with you to have sex at your disposal.And she had not always heard that sex is something beautiful and that it is only the young girls always made people ill, and was formerly priggish even banned? So what should go wrong?
But with this sexuality that was soon not only sobering, but even more dis­gusting, so it felt really used and dirty, so they invented ever new excuses why it did not fit just the sex. And the boy she used really only, and although it was actually a very beautiful girl, he pretended as if they did not concern him, as he once was with his friends. Oh, and what they had not in her girlhood all dreamed of sexuality, to see a naked man with pleasure, to be regarded by him naked to massage him to be massaged by him, and all this without touching the genitals; So in a totally harmless way. She had thought that everything that comes automatically if they would only have sex once. But there was nothing that held all the friend is immoral.However, the sex that he wanted. Yes, now they also saw that this sex is the real problematic, but that no one had predicted it. Fun with sex, with the supposedly most beautiful thing in the world, they never had in any case. And so she was glad when they had made after three years, three lost years, she said, finally concluded, and the nightmare was over with his friend. Unfortunately, the innocence was gone, however ...
And there is still yes, then the free rider problem. Just that there are to be here-rade! A girl has fallen into such a man or boy and want him to be close together and it also provides the sex. And he to whom the girl basically does not matter, takes advantage of the opportunity and also plays with the theater, to a great love, before the girl changed her mind. Those who already throws a nice, appetizing girl from the bed in which it rises entirely voluntary? It's just the stupid, the so-entrains something! Finally, it is still safe with just a virgin, that one gets no AIDS and no other microbes. Among the other women and girls, you never know exactly what you so captures everything, who had messed up with what microbes in her vagina already. What behind the girl, whether it is lovesick or what will become of him otherwise, whether it might even deserve the sex money and lands on the line, and if it's just a student line is, it does not matter, it has indeed wanted. How nice that we now have sexual self-determination and the girls are even on it, to want sex, and you have to help do not by any clever sayings! So you need to make at least after not blame or feel guilty that they had cracked one!
The question is, were there for a girl that experience really worth it that made? Had there not been other ways?
And last but not least, we should think about the fact that there are men, "crack" not at all the young women want, because they too good be And that such men then also too bad for girls, try around the first? and believe they have the nose of the other men in full, in this way to find the ideal partner then?
I paint here too black? Or I just look out more carefully?
Yes, why girls hear of such margins with premarital sex or just "Sex on the sample" as little or even nothing at all Well, that's so hard to understand - because who says likes the fact that his former so self safe decision, with the sex to begin, and who had made it to the good advice of parents or other people that everything is gone in the pants that you (or indeed women) simply was just stupid that you look at the beautiful first love was so messed up should be that which would have been just really nice and can?
And these are not some isolated reports that women just have the problems with sexuality. There are plenty of other investigations, about two in five wo­men have really no desire or will not work with orgasm (Focus, 4th 5th, 2010), or the disturbance of the physical ability to love women in general (from loss of libido on basicrejection of all forms of sexuality, arousal and orgasm disor­ders to severe pain and vaginismus <vaginal spasm> through coitus): "Almost every second woman is temporarily once in a lifetime for a longer period of time affected," according to the statistics. The real figure is higher ago. "Probably every woman during a particular phase of her life experience," suggested the gynecologist Elisabeth Merkle (Focus on 4 1, 2009).
But what then? What can I do?


9. So why not try out first of all women's sexuality?
Why be the only men to please and do what you want?
Why not once said that the men the girls to please?

So we differ but once in a male and a female sexuality! Why is it always the girls into taking to force the male sex or by whomsoever, as if there were nothing else? Why can not we just let one male sexuality out of the game, as long as nothing is completely clear, and we only practice of female sexuality?
And the difference? Well, with the penetration, then plays where the phallus, or just the male part of the crucial role that is now the male sex - and when it comes to the even larger body of people, namely his skin is, therefore, to skin contact, which is the feminine sexuality!
Sociologists confirm namely, that women want a sexuality that is not destroyed or injured, are not degraded and exploited, and then of course - as is often - does not cause more or less lasting trauma. Women want more of a gentle sexuality, one that heals rather, the happy, which is even more heavenly. And when there is no oppressor and oppressed, not winners and losers and it's about fun, not hurt anyone (Gisela mischief, "Mrs. dreams of another pornography" of wrath, "Commercially dreams", rororo 8210). Or to put it more bluntly, women (and especially girls, if only they were allowed to them and not the worm-made) to feel stark naked fiddle.And when men behave accordingly, then they participate in even the men on it! For as it is much better for a woman or a girl, something crazy in terms of an innocent sexuality (and meant here is the paradisiacal nudity) to start with a man or boy as their own or with a woman, it is accordingly a Women want men to see, smell, feel ... So you want to do gymnastics naked around, tearing, care, massage, hair cut (somewhere else) - and leave the course at all or just

happen to be. They find it very very well if the genitalia remain at all from the game - as well as just playing with dogs and crawl No one comes to the idea of ​​fiddling around on their private parts or anything else that can be made. So, washing mutual, mutual massage, of course, full body massage, but no "Lin­gam" or even just with her "yoni" as they call it today, even if the genitals are involved. And they want a lot less sex, imagining themselves as men, and above all they want to even more with the man with whom they want to basi­cally give birth! Otherwise just "cuddling" and sleep with beautiful skin contact - but "sleep" and not really "sexual intercourse".
Yes, it would be like, once the test with a man, if women can talk about it with a man if he can take for something together, whether women can feel good with him, can let go - or more needs to be afraid?
Not least, girls should also bear in mind: a man or boy for sex itself is the goofiest blonde, but finding one that can take together, which hurt the girl, either physically or psychologically does not cause a disappointment or as a sobering wants to experience that is a real character full of knights, so that's probably more a sign of intelligence and knowledge of human nature!
And so yes, both do not always just "pray rosaries," so do "nothing"!
And they are right where they happen to have right to say if both Margarete Mitscherlich, as well as Alice Schwarzer: The intrusion is always an aggressive act, and women and of course the girls often feel very much if they even now with this entry do not get along.
But how they could have known before?
It must finally be said quite clearly: The penetration is easy for something sensitive as the test of love is a gross act too!
We know the problem from the technology, yes it is exactly this - and the technology is finally something anyway rather coarse and spiritual, human things really incomparable. How then, if it already here is exactly the same problem?
And although it has been noted in the measurement of minute structures in the nuclear field, such that the light or electron beams are even still too coarse for the objects: instead of observing these structures and also to measure, they are destroyed by these rays!In any case, we get with these rays never figured out what we wanted. If we want to see something real, then we must think of something completely different can be!
And so it is with love, with the penetration we achieve nothing helpful at all, at best we destroy something!
And: A girl should even consider what impression it with his quest for sexual experiences to others, especially so to make men. She goes here not to the level of a prostitute who is also, however, still too stupid to take money for it properly?
The advantage of the "female sexuality" is now a rather gentle and intelligent

at the same time and actually emancipated "test method". And above all, both here and at the same level, no penetration, no aggression, no oppression, no transgression.
And if it was nothing, then there was just nothing - and then accuse a woman has not even to an idiot their teenage years and finally sacrificed her inno­cence.
So here is where Sun discussed the experience of "female sexuality", espe­cially by the basic rule of good advertising ago. For after the following applies: Never anything negative, only positive!And abstinence, which recommend the usual moralists, is now something negative, so that you do not want anything. And not to do something is just not a value! And what is not a value can never be something attractive, a fact which can inspire especially young people. This also explains why the usual moralizing is the abstinence probably always doomed to failure.
Nature seems here to have further made provisions do just that: For all the nerve cells that are responsible for the female orgasm, are anyway in the outer parts of the female genitals, so what does not happen without sexual intercourse to orgasm, which happens most likely not with the penetration. In addition, the orgasm and above all a mental thing: a woman feel really at the partner well, is it actually "her partner" By contrast, these gadgets or twiddling that will supposedly lead to orgasm at some point, only mesh? and disgusting and not only bring nothing, but are still rather cramped, at least of fun can be no question ...
And also, we know that for each sex and many more microbes are transfer­red, yes, sometimes even sexually transmitted diseases. Of course women can be pregnant. Nature does have a chance of fertility and sexual intercour­se on the fun coupled with each other. But in this process, where the intense hugging and to embrace with the legs - yes, as much skin contact as possible - the man's penis is really quite different place than near the vagina, because nothing can happen with pregnancy and sexually transmitted disea­ses! Are not all the evidence that the nature of the approach recommended here, "checking" certainly has provided and will! And "they" can also test whe­ther their partner's semen on his stomach is comfortable - or just disgusting!
And who says that it would not do, let's make us even clear what the nature of the female genital opening between the legs, so has placed among the strongest muscles of a woman! Yes I wonder why?
But it does not have everything go so far as it would with riders fighting on the beach or in the water, where the girls sit with the boy on his shoulders and trying to throw each other down - of course all nude! There are so many!
The girls will see: The Men, the Knights are real and they really love and want to not only easy to use as "Samenmelkmaschine" who make all this with only too happy!

"Seek ye first the kingdom of God and everything else will be given to you to!"
These words of Jesus can certainly also be as follows: "Seek ye first the paradisiacal harmony between man and woman - and when will the works, then you already know why strict rules about love and marriage have divine light" - See point B. second The picture: "Bathing nymph" by Carl Spitzweg. And the ambivalence of nudity see page 52.

Yes, this could also be tried but really something. It will not stick to it - becau­se if that is possible, then you can also take group trips, you can see if you have something to say, whether they're still nice place when it is day and night together, if the other one for a very interesting and rewarding is that you stay with him a long life together and could have eventually children ...
Of course there is also the problem of cheaters, so that eventually a man "mo­re" wants to be the "female sexuality". This is a girl should make clear that even in men between the legs are the most sensitive parts. When she sug­gests there full of it (for an idiot that's ok!) And it also brings the hand to relax, then it has only one rest …

10. Pride virgin looks chivalrous macho: The perfect couple!
The girls would put themselves in even the boys and men, in which the situa­tion to the girls over there.
At least the boys and men are in a predicament, at least if they do not have any ideals. Either they are for women and girls, pigs - and if they're not, then they are either gay or impotent or sick at all - yes, and then women so she will not ....
Yes, what they should do, because how they do it, anyway it is wrong!
If not for the idea of ​​female sexuality is the solution! This can prove downright men, that they are not pigs - and not gay or impotent or sick!
In this way, to have restrained men and boys who do not participate in this tasting circus, a fair chance.
Of course, you have to talk to each other!
A thesis of this book is indeed that the sexual Cham is a sign of the oppression of the people. Man does not live according to its kind and is not really free. Man is by nature but provided just for the love, that is the only or the only one to love. And because he did not create, he is ashamed, the shame that is needed. And that is again a false morality, with high morals, as we wish them and the fact we need to realize the great love that has nothing to do.
The issue of shame is just too, that the fascination with the opposite sex is far too much on the specific parts of the body of the opposite sex is concentrated and therefore that the owners of these body parts eventually be replaced even important is now even this body region, it dominates our thinking. This then is a true love that is indeed something mental, overgrown or downright filled or even killed. And because the love is something mental, yes, at least initially just a delicate little plant, they can germinate nor develop. But an idea still lives in us, therefore, the fascination of so many trashy novels, but also of high literary and cultural production, I am thinking of so many operas.
And the benefit of our society today is still the large number of other people - if not among them can find the Matching?
Has always been the uncertainty, the uncertainty over the other, before the stranger who was scary. But our reluctance, which was thus protected by, but not including spending a miserable themselves.
The "method of female sexuality," we now have the opportunity to offer our spontaneous feelings for one another, and even strangers much more free rein. And while we can also find out anything useful about it without ever happened all the same.
And you can also play out differently - and especially a lot more intensity! The problem of sexual intercourse, too, that the sexual energy is discharged through the relevant parts of the body - and if it is now refrain from this discharge, the energy moves to the whole body over - and now the whole body is much more intense! That was probably the lifeblood of the aging Gandhi, students should have been falling over, spend a night naked with him - and apart from the nudity was nothing else! And the students would not be too torn about if they had not had anything like this!
Whether such a setting is not even the virginity fun again? Of course smoothly, and after the summer holidays brown and "down" even shaved - and - a matter of honor - of course not shaved by himself but by a boy or man, the "she" has been chosen based on the aspects of good people skills: Who is the one who can pull yourself together and where they can put up with? If necessary the brother? So a kind of game nachgeholtes doctor? Clear imprint of reward, the chivalrous macho men must come from somewhere!And with everything she's obviously proud virgin! Above all, this woman gets no trauma, what has been so readily by sexual intercourse, and even from the first, if it does not happen in the unity of body and soul can not claim guaranteed. The trauma is, moreover, not only to blame the church because she is so hostile physical and young people to make bad sex. I know at least one young woman whose family was one of religion anything ("this is all superstition, but for the Unemanzipierten"), and has a quite belonging trauma "of it." And the shaved hair? The grow eventually as the after-!
Yes, now there are finally a chance to prove macho is that he is positive on the variety, ie an a gallant, and a girl, the ideals of a great love has come together - and that something good is out of it!


Notes: The female sex organ is even provided for the femininity of a girl or a woman. How a man behaves towards this part of the body, he will most likely ever behave toward women - at least at some point. Is not this a great opportunity for the knowledge of human nature? And if that's too crass here, should bear in mind that girls think probably more accurate (what do I want another?) When something like this thread in itself, while many dispose of them, their virginity without proper just thinking like a nasty filthy rags.

For this, a graphic of a more humane moral model

The moral model has surely much more likely to do something meaningful with sexual self-determination, which serves the girls themselves!

Was also noted here, however, that one course after another moral model, just the traditional, you can live! It circulates at present (January 2012) an investigation of whether people are happy here in Germany (see example in google under "Happiness Atlas 2011"). And since it was found that many people, especially young and living alone or with partners, regardless of mo­rality according to which model, and are not married, but not unhappy - no matter how people came together. The purpose of this concept is indeed not only happiness, but above all a realistic chance that people who would so never or very rarely have a chance, as well as from other cultures to be found, together also, and that there really something new comes out, and also Great. And even if something satisfactory "progress", then that does not mean that you can not shake it and it may perhaps be better is different!
The impetus for this book is simply that the union of two people is something that belongs only in a true partnership of love, it is simply not a toy, not a pastime, because it's so boring otherwise, no athletic experience, Roulette no adventure - there are different! So we encourage especially once the other young people about this!And it's not simply that it is because of the instincts but to "more" is.One woman said: "If I do not want, then I will not!"

Part B: Religion and Morality in a larger context

1.The philosophical (and political!) Dimension of this approach.

Indeed, there are a wide background!

What wrote the Spanish philosopher Ortega y Gasset, some 90 years ago, is in spirit timelessly valid, we must not come to his mode of expression: "Who would have believed that so incomprehensible muse elusive as the air structure, the young girls in chaste chambers the centuries dig deeper traces than the steel of the war god. Of the tissues touching girls secret fantasies largely depends on the reality of the coming century. Shakespeare was right: our life is woven of dreams "(" On Love ", Stuttgart 1954, p 24)!
Why are the girls? Is it not because the men who have everything under control, it's not just the ones in this issue, starting with about the hit on, so are the triggers or even the guilty, if it says something crass?
No, no!
And here again Ortega y Gasset: "The Don Juan is not the man who loves women, but the man, love the women. ... It is a fact that there are men in the women with unusual ferocity and frequency of falling in love ... "(ditto p 111)
According to Ortega y Gasset is the first concrete step toward sexuality that is, from the side of the woman?
Yes, exactly! And even if I think about who in the ten stories of first seduction of girls to me - both female as well as male side - were reported, as had also begun with the first of a girl, then it clearly in nine cases girls who wanted to start having sex!Remarkably it should be for those who see the evil in men ever: In some cases, such first had sex, the men even refused directly - they did not want to be the ones that a girl could cause problems.And in one case I was able to convince even a work colleague (even before my time theolo­gian), "it" do not, even though the girl specially traveled from France. That choose now the girls are typical now not only Don Juan, but also types of men who do not have the charisma of a Don Juan in itself, may be mainly due to them by Don Juan's were poorly made and they anticipate now the want of "such a macho" to be disappointed. So they are looking out for their first sex any man who is at least reasonably sympathetic and available and really has nothing of a Don Juan Macho itself.
However, while the girls do not realize that they shape their choices is the type of man in general - even one who has the final say and determines the fate of the times! It looks so romantic, but also as modern, if a girl's virginity to a man "gives", just like that from which it wants nothing, not even marriage and partnership. But what happened really? It creates not an imprint of men by rewarding - and so it is obvious that the girl does not go down to respon­sibility and chivalry? At least, failed to give the woman or the girl in this way the chance of their favor, and so now is really just the "first time" the unique dream, from the men, men in a positive sense, ie in the direction and responsibility chivalry to characterize!
Yes, what a girl just reached with the first sexual intercourse as being able to fuck other circumstances, as a Casanova, a Don Juan or a fornicator even in his machismo, the most beautiful women and girls to confirm? Or an inexpe­rienced boy who was good until then, and dreamed of a great love, to make such a macho, and it could then be complicit, if men are pigs? Or, if the boys have dreamed of a great love and disappointed, and eternally sad and even contemptuous of women are?
I also know a case where a girl started a relationship with a boy at a very early stage, and after five years, separated from the boys, because he simply became too boring. The boy was trying to win back the girl, and when he did not succeed, he killed himself. The question arises in this case, certainly, if not the sex, the boy could not have developed very differently, so that he would not become boring for the girls?
And what light is doing here in this rumprobierenden girl? Can not see the way that they will be only once no matter who they get there to go to bed, and when they are full of men who participate here, the snout, that they then want the great knight? The question arises, however, whether undertaken by the men who are really great knight, do not ask for anything more?
Please do not misunderstand it all! It's not about blaming anyone any blame for something that is not really good. It is first of all just an attempt at objective analysis. And when it comes to the question of such a thing as guilt, then one can still point out that it was not the girls and the women who come to such open and secret desires, but that they are victims just kind of (and then re-offenders) and the actual first-time offenders are those who have taught them some moral disabled model - see the first moral model graphic.
Here, perhaps, a few sentences to an understanding of love is in order: There is one that has nothing particularly to do with social coexistence, so that they fit each other in real life. And then there is still something of a metaphysical love. I want to return the Spanish philosopher Ortega y Gasset quote, like the love process is initiated:
"This has hardly begun, so the lover feels a strange compulsion to dissolve his individuality in that of the other and vice versa, the suck of the beloved in his own. Puzzling desire! While we abhor in all other cases of life nothing more than to see the limits of our individual existence of another being inju­red, there is the sweetness of love that the lover is permeable in a metaphy­sical sense is, and only in the merger with the beloved, individuality in a `se­cond 'meeting place. This is reminiscent of the doctrine of Saint-Simon, that the truly human individual from the couple husband and wife is. But still, the longing for fusion are not here.The full love culminates in a more or less clear desire to symbolize the union with a child who persist in the perfections of the loved one and assert themselves. In this third moment and reflected the love of her accumulated significant meaning in all purity. The child is neither the father nor the mother, it embodied the unity of both, and is striving for perfec­tion, formed in flesh and blood "(ditto, p 120).
And to me it's just about this love in the metaphysical or supernatural sense, which is never as a constraint and therefore not perceived as a restriction of sexual self-determination - if they succeed then!
Yes, in short: by what the girls dreamed of in the deepest recesses of their hearts and which they then convert into action, they determine the image of men - and about the history of mankind ever! That should make the girls even know!
And is not this a great philosophy of how the world could be changed? Yes, why not our philosophy to practice this philosophy, then, why we do not hear from? This: Let us remember that our usual philosophy has its origins in an­cient Greece. And at that time was that homosexuality is normal and the boys love that kind of sexuality in Greece at that time belonged to just a normal and good people. On the other hand was interested in the male-female power rather not, it was simply omitted. And when this day has changed our attitudes toward homosexuality, yet the themes of ancient philosophy have remained. And the reason our deepest philosophical problems is just there.
In the Bible, now everything is completely different - and then tend to like the approach of Ortega y Gasset!

2. This approach to theology: The biblical story of salvation as a commitment to paradise destructive machismo.

   
   It turns here certainly theologically not a trifle, for the solution of which I am engaged me so. Because the stories of virgin birth, resurrection and ascension must finally be overcome, but they are ideas of pagan antiquity. Only Paul, Jesus did not know, yes, the resurrection, they invented and put in the center of his theology. But surely he meant no resurrection in bodily form. He probably meant a supernatural event. But since all this is very misleading for us today: Should we perhaps Paul's resurrection theology aside can only prefer?
   In addition, there is really no small thing we believe. And if something still sounds as good and it is just not true, as the blessing of God will rest upon it then?
   Let us remember that Jesus was a Jew, and is in the Jewish tradition, at least initially, to the abuse of sexuality (if it happens for example in an Ex-and-run mentality) and its overcoming. Denationalisation of religious history behind the story of the fall of Adam and Eve, the beginning of an alternative religion to the other simpler fertility cults - and fertility cults always mean the abuse of women in the ritual (as well as other) prostitution. What is "such a religion" but an ex-and-run method? In Genesis, the Bible on the other hand, the woman as a "companion" seen when the God of the Bible says. "I want to give people a means" There is then also possible to "love high"! A completely different view of women as in the fertility religions and in all religions, which are derived from it!
   Thus, seen in the Jewish religion, marriage and sex together, so does sex marriage. Therefore, prostitutes are also adulterous women, because they always start new marriages, and this again (from) break. The historical or historical Jesus can be understood only against this background. In contrast, the contract form for a marriage - regardless of who has sex with whom - Roman law and has nothing to do with monogamy in the biblical sense, that is nothing to the understanding of Jesus' marriage. So that today's marriages violated on probation with various partners (relationships with sexual intercourse especially in adolescence) Monogamievorstellungen against the Bible, even if there is no prenuptial agreement. That means not only that people should not get divorced, but more fundamentally, that sexual intercourse only with the "eternal partner" takes place (except for Verwitwungen).
   And in fact is also clear that this so it works, also a useful educational approach is one that marriages are threaded from the outset reasonable. But please read again the ancient liturgical texts of Baptism and Confirmation (or confirmation) of, but also on the Internet to find - if those are not the remains of such ancient pedagogical approaches to evil and a high level of love! And as these sacraments are seen today-te? Are they not now even more general requests or rites with vows, ever the "Holy Church" to remain faithful, that is to serve a system? For the purposes of the historical Jesus would be with no security.
   Here, the sex is by no means generally regarded as a bad thing, but he is something ambivalent, somewhat Doppelwertiges, so it can be the highest and the lowest, depending on how it is used. Long been a distinction in Catholic moral theology to "use and abuse," so that something "in the sense of the inventor" can be used - or not. It also reflects the Catholic moral theologians is now clear that in terms of sexuality "use" is not only when it is done in the sense of procreation, but also in the sense of partnership and love. And that's what many sex traffic really does not then and not today. Just out here to this problem of moral theologians of sexual ambivalence and who just do not throw at least in the context of education all in one pot. And certainly do not want to give young people a realistic tools to make everything right the first time, so it never occurs to abuse.
   Are exactly the same problem of ambivalence are also needed to nudity. You can sign of moral decay, but also of heavenly harmony - it all depends on it. Who here does not differ, and throws everything into a pot that is at least of high sexual morality no idea and are to be treated with great caution, if he says something to the topic.
   And there - and often in connection with the investigations into the historical Jesus - and more obvious is that all this was not the case, as it is told, there are now at least a chance to return to the last concern of Jesus. Here, after all, is now a well-founded and plausible approach is also very obvious - and perhaps for that very reason never noticed. After all, confirmed by the philosopher Ortega y Gasset, who I think is independent of the Christian faith, the sensitivity of this approach (see B.1).
   And what about God? The problem is that we are precise about God now do not really know. And what you can do nothing about it should let you prefer. But there is something that will please God, our commitment to the kingdom of God - or just for paradise here and now! And this has nothing to do with a better world, a world of love and in all cases without abuse of women and sexuality. (And it should not be God, then we do in any case nothing in vain, if we work for it!)

   Comments on these notes: Actually, I wanted the truths of faith do not respond to our Christian faith, because I did not get too close, for they are so important. But unfortunately I had to make the experience that an ethical concept was dismissed for our young people again and again as irrelevant and not important. And so went one day only: it must be easy to say clearly what was in any case, the concerns of the real, that the historical Jesus and what not more! And the historical Jesus, we know at least some.
   Let the Jewish salvation history so even with regard to the salvation of man in the unity of body and soul here and now. And Jesus was not human, "for our salvation," as we say in the Creed? Let's do it once not as usual with ancient pagan and medieval theological constructions of, but at the origin, ie at the base or on the occasion of the Bible stories we know Sun You can actually know very much about it today, you will just have to!
   Yes, what is actually behind all the old myths and legends of the Bible, as literally no one can take?
   In a conversation that was more of a bar conversation, I pointed at once, as I now saw with the Bible, that it is indeed primarily a matter of ethical values ​​such as love and partnership between men and women and thereby ultima­tely to the unity of body and soul would go, which is indeed something to do with sexuality. Since I was one of my interlocutors to a "folk wisdom" for the best, I would like to play it, even if the wording is vulgar rather, "Oh, is it in our human societies, but has always been about the same thing about the three ' P's': Pimmel, Punz and Portemonnaie! " (cock, vulva, wallet)
   That it is about the "wallet" is, indeed is probably perfectly normal and will not be a problem. Finally, we will work yes and make money to live, and the work is their reward value and must be paid reasonable reprehensible is required only when you want to come without proper own performance on other people's money - or, as certainly also some Women who choose a man by whether he has money.
   And with the other two "P's" is also quite normal and that around it, this is not to demonize so from the outset. Objectionable only if you want to come for fun in the sexual with basically unfair methods like using dishonest tricks and lies, if you use violence or exploiting any power-structures and also directly causes, especially over ignorance and naivety - without view of the fact that the very nature of sexuality in the context of her partnership and mutual love and responsibility is. The problem then is only the abuse of everything.And the runs - unfortunately - under different labels have always been throughout the history of mankind.

But there was always a very strong commitment to overcome the abuse and help the love and partnership between men and women to victory! However, this has always been an interplay. Let's look at how it works like this with lies and deception, with overt or covert violence, direct or indirect pressures, with more or less sophisticated manipulation to pseudo-scientific psychology - and what is on the other hand, brave, wise and human women and men could co­me up again and in order for such non-binding and irresponsibility to come here and many a hoax to throw sand into the gears! After all, most people should surely be different, and good will, but somehow it finally succeeds, un­fortunately, rarely, a rational morality to help in the long run to break through.
And so then tears again and again to the old routine, so it comes to decadence and moral decline, but different, and the game begins again …

a) Against the religious machismo.
And it goes right at the beginning of the Bible wrong with the man-woman problem! So here again has just been said in more detail: After religious his­torical evidence (such as the Protestant theologian Jan Heller, 1925 to 2008, the "name of Eve," published in 1958 at the Oriental Institute in Prague) is the Adam and Eve story a polemic against the usual time in the Middle East fer­tility cults, cultic So above all against the related prostitution. For parallel sto­ries in the then popular myths we know that behind the so Eva hides a cult prostitute who seduces the primitive man. And there is the typical frustration when "doing it" couple with each other, which includes just not together, and thus it is a paradise destroyed both. These days when Adam and Eve is not therefore a first couple, but an opportunity to pair is more accurate transla­tions of the Adam and Eve story not of "their man" is mentioned, the Eve gave the fruit, but of "the man with her." That means in plain language, that sex is taking place especially between people, the same no real partner and in which it also is not the wonderful unity of body and soul, which happens to be associated with sexual intercourse with a loved one is possible. Yes, this wonderful unit is the idea of ​​the Bible from heaven or also the kingdom of God. However, we need us to solve the time-based concept of a physical garden of Eden. Whether this unit is now being disturbed or even destroyed by the cultic prostitution, through the normal vulgar prostitution, or by a tasting behavior, as we now oftenexperience, are only varieties of one and the same problem: it is sex outside of a solid body-and-soul relationship, and that is: true The unity of body and soul something, and the statement of the Paradise story is, if we Jan Heller's approach in our current life reality realize that it is not disturbed mind-body relations in the sense of God is the paradise, because they destroy Paradise.
The mesh in a superstitious world in which everything is not quite see through to the actions of gods and spirits will be explained is now: those people "who have the say and the other exploit (want to) make for simplicity of this relation­ship of exploitation one religion, or they build this relationship of exploitation is an at least one religion. Because with a religious faith are indeed generally innermost fears and constraints linked to the faithful and innermost fears and compulsions in humans are still the most convenient and cheapest, to rule over them, and anyone who dares to be against a religion, ie to make it against the "will of the gods"? And now to those who persuade at the controls of labor conditions, only those people that what they drive, the will of the gods and that they are God-closer to a priestly caste itself and the normal people kindly have to do the things required by the priestly castes people they so that the gods are merciful and grant them happiness and health and (of course only in a life after death) and so on redemption. And then it works already!
Of course, the "lower people" and be willing to participate since.You must be ready in about holy wars, to keep their heads, they have to really want to be happy, even if it's really about the power interests of the rulers. Aside from fighting on the battlefield is also the Herumplackerei in the work to worship, to help at work or at least at the will of the gods (in ancient Babylon about was the entire property owned by the temple, in our middle age was at least one-third owned by the church and the drudgery was the appropriate temple or church land to automatically worship). In its own way eventually to the women - and of course the very youngest and most beautiful - "in accordance with their bodies join in" and do so little for the blessing of fertility - we call it today as "cultic prostitution" or "temple prostitution" . And their fathers and friends (of course, especially from the lower layers) have all not only tolerate so straight, but also encourage the best and have occasionally even their fun, because that is the surest way to prevent them fromeventually be skeptical and to rebel against the whole system and destroy it at the end.
Therefore, may, if women are not as fresh, just the other ran to her, so she also gotten some of that fun and not think further. Such religious characteris­tics Kaputt's way officially today - please have a look at the keyword temple prostitution (in the online dictionary www.basisreligion.de)!
For the following figure: see the history of religion is the age-old modern Indi­an religion (Hinduism in the same dictionary) is approximately the same as the misogynistic fertility religions in the environment of the Bible, against which the Bible repeatedly struggles, such as the Flood story in the Tower-of -Babel story, or just in the Adam and Eve story. That it is not a usual Partner­ship pair is, the practice of sex for the pleasure of the Creator's successful partnership, but rather an arbitrary motley pair, it is clear from the other sculp­tures in this and similar Indian temples, there are fact even every Group-set groups of figures - and have intimate relationships with the well-to do any­thing! Although the temple of Konarak was built long after the creation of Adam and Eve story, but it is cultural and religious history in close connection with it.

A pair of ritual prostitution in a unique position under a (fertility) tree next to a god with a serpent at the Sun Temple of Konarak (India).

And how can you change those mistakes?

These were of course always some who have tried such a thing as real inhu­manities - will recognize only individual and can change and - at least initially. And if something is tied to religion, an amendment may be usable only over a religion! The most sense so it works with a new faith, for the reasonable rela­tionship between the people and even between husband and wife partner­ships, that is a true monogamy, and most important concern is the process of the idolatrous priests simply sin! And here lies the origin and the cause of the belief in a monotheistic God - he is always rebellion against powerful concept and inhumane conditions in the name of any gods or idols better!
The apostle Paul now sees in his Corinthian letters and Romans - as already indicated - a connection between the paradise of Adam and Christ story, which he also called the second Adam. And he sees the salvation that Christ has made up for what Adam had spoiled, to say the fast express.
This statement has now been more or less in a theological speculation about Christ fizzles, a concept that had virtually no impact on our lives. But if we recognize the sin of Adam in paradise, the destruction of a man-woman rela­tionship, then that would mean that there was at least the specific concerns of Jesus, that precisely this relationship is restored.
Sure, paradise certainly more than the restoration means of a heavenly man-woman relationship, but one of a perfect man-woman relationship in all cases to paradise - and we see the Biblical paradise story yet again as a brilliant approach here to begin concrete in the not unjustified expectation that if this profoundly human relationship gesundet, eventually everything else gesundet!
And so much we can tell, it must be in the early church went exactly to this recovery. Let us consider first of all, that there were particular women and slaves, then, that the oppressed in a society of men who accepted Christianity in particular.
We know what happened to it - a fairly obscure theology of original sin, etc., on the one hand, and in practice, basically the same thing as before.
So this is just the history or the background of the chapter of Genesis in the Old Testament of the ancient Jewish religion with the Adam and Eve story and the story of creation and the renewal of the attempt by Jesus.

b) against the machismo of the slaveholders' way
At some point, people start thinking of course, and make no longer quite so easily and willingly. Since then it works - if you only have enough power and wealth - the slave mesh. Tell me about the slaves and the work that we know or can imagine it to us at least, if we really want. And the slaves were certainly not just for gardening and household chores kept, but most of all, or at least first time ever as "Sexgespielinnen", which is less in our consciousness.After all, even in ancient times, slaves an important commodity, trafficking in wo­men there were always, and they were in ancient Rome can be from India and Africa, from Germania and from elsewhere "imported", clearly, the more exotic and rare, the more exciting on the one hand and more expensive and profitable on the other hand! Because what you do not anything sexual for the fun!
Some young women like it might have gone through even, at least initially, to just the boredom and hopelessness of escaping their narrow home, like so many girls, at least not too long ago in the villages of northern Thailand who were looking forward to a prostitute in Bangkok to be. However, these girls knew how to get out was by asking, not what it had to prostitution to what was then connected to a misery, though often beautiful appearance.
And it is also the women have gone to the objects of trafficking in women have been or still are. Only when it is too late and they already stuck in the middle and there is no going back, at least not to the point, they realize what is going on.
And how do I change it?
The best course on the abolition of slavery. But no matter how easy it is after all not what owners are going to volunteer out of pure humanity and its achievements? And finally, the owners of the abolition of slavery depends.
But creative people of good will find a suitable occasion then it means! Let's look again at a different narrative of the Bible, namely the narrative of the Exodus of the Israelites from Egypt.
That the Israelites so after their liberation from the yoke of the Egyptians now rather aimlessly through the desert attracted and God their leader, Moses, and so handed them on Mount Sinai, some stone tablets of the Ten Com­mandments, is surely something odd - and ultimately unlikely.
The point of this story is probably the: slaves trying to escape, as we have the slave rebellion under Spartacus - know (73 71 BC) in ancient Rome, there was always a time. But unlike the Spartacist uprising in which the rebellious slaves were megalomaniac after the initial success and believed they could destroy the Roman Empire, had the rebellious slaves of the Egyptians in Moses an educated, realistic-minded leader, called for even an Egyptian whohad in mind what is possible (and this was finally the settlement of former slaves in a buffer zone between the former superpowers, and could also accept the all inclusive).
These slaves had presumably made by revolutionary ideas and gossip so unpopular and even brought the whole political system in danger (the plagues of Egypt!), So that they could draw better, go the main thing they had. In their train through the desert forty years, it was now the search for a new home and life, hence the sometimes wars with other nations.
And so it came under these freed slaves not re familiar with the exploitation and power relations, clever people devised among them, as Moses the concept of the Ten Commandments, it put one of the Mountain Gods in the desert, passed by the mountain, they just, in the mouth and it introduced with them. The precept of the sanctity of marriage in this concept (that may be namely the place for sex only marriage), one must be seen against the back­ground of the former slavery of these people: slaves were indeed after all, especially the Sexgespielinnen their masters and the noncommittal sexual behavior was therefore a sign of slavery, but of love and partnership between men and women and of real emancipation of women! Now if you really love and partnership, our top priority is, of course, it can be a slave, so that slavery is abolished in fact already: Nothing, however, ensues when a wealthy man to free a slave girl in love with their traffic has, but then please do only in true love and partnership! And so such free and emancipated people recognize as a matter of course to also firm and secure ground rules - just the Ten Com­mandments!
By and large, that is probably the topic of "liberation from slavery," and at the same time provision that slavery or slavery-like conditions not tear again, the background of the book of Exodus in the Old Testament to be. What now turn to the stories, like the twelve sons of Jacob, that the ancestors of these slaves who had previously ever been to Egypt, is relatively unimportant, it might be a mythical story that the freed slaves themselves have given.
And yet it was but even in this liberated society eventually return to power relations and the Ten Commandments were reinterpreted accordingly, so that was the idea of ​​freedom and emancipation to see anything more. In the Book of Leviticus, the meaning of the idea of ​​liberation is not about the freedom and the emancipation of man, but only the worship of a sometimes angry God. The prophets railed Although sometimes compared this decline, but they were always very limited accomplish something, perhaps the reason that they never had the chance to start with the root situation of the people to start so a new kind of parenting?

100. Against the criminal machismo
     At some point, so the theme of "love and relationship and sex" once again overdue. Although there is no more abuse for religious reasons or for reasons of ownership. But that does not mean that "you" not to the wives and daughters particular approach is the poor people. Because that would be ridiculous, after all the ingenuity in this field experience, but has always been inexhaustible.
     So now just the laws that were originally introduced to protect the moral, ever turned around and abused. It is not easy to see that women can actually be­long to "one man" is necessary, just nachgeholfen and they are dissuaded by extortion of a contrary attitude -. Because infidelity is not the nature of wo­man?
     How does it work now?
     Meanwhile, we know the category "experimental archeology": where there are now known from past evidence? In what larger context that evidence today? Can we conclude from the present-day contexts to those of past times?
     And there are some very solid evidence and, above all! Unlike the reports of virgin birth and resurrection, is now about the report of the sinful woman in the Gospel of John (John 8), which is to be stoned, because they had allegedly committed adultery, and Jesus was saved by his intelligent reasoning is completely realistic. Yes, those stoning executions or even we know today, we think of the extreme male-dominated society of the Taliban, who until recently was not even officially.
     Perhaps we have even the execution of an "adulterous woman" on TV noti­ced. Meanwhile, we also know, however, that while most probably never went to real adultery, at least that the problem was, but that simply men abused the force there religious laws to get rid of now and again a weary become wife or a to make an example, to suppress the women back better. And to have that then just worried some witnesses who had seen the woman (allegedly), or with which they (supposedly) even "had something" or even just wanted - it was enough already, if they even particularly nice to youwas (it could be easy but as a clear sign of their instincts and to interpret their "immorality"?). "Man" was, of course, strong in faith itself, and had resisted her temptation and she "reported" to save the morality - and it worked with the sentencing. That's the way God even in these states where the laws are rotated so as the need to call the shots. And who aufmuckt other hand, is executed with the same, because he's got something against faith and against God.
     And with this in mind we go back so even 2000 years to the time of the Bible. Because it fits a lot. Why was Jesus so angry at the accusers of the woman should be stoned to death since, because he knew the true background, so that there was at least not about the morality of the woman? The strange thing is already, as the prosecutor had her death sentence revised so unusually fast after Jesus just said a few appropriate words.
     (Maybe you had let accumulate in this case, the woman knows this.) You tell me nothing of the "stork": It is just about been the same as being with the Ta­liban, did not last in the Jewish theocracy, but also priest morale up including the death penalty for adultery, which was of course performed only on wo­men. And the ancient Jews and their women veiled, too anyway (or perhaps because) there's a prostitute. As has been made, it was generally not very fine, but was especially the most respectable women hidden until they them­selves perhaps even the middle of it stuck (see the story of the beautiful Su­sanna, annexed to the Book of Daniel, that "Daniel 13 ", I highly recommend reading them, they are only in Catholic Bibles).

     Must have been finally had the time of course, their sexuality, and at least some men with all the uptight morals at that time certainly quite often greedy for sex. And what offered itself as better than being just those moral precepts "use" them or to just abuse?
     Well, my dear young friends, there is not much left now! Is the story of the stoning prevented the "sinner" So a failed settlement history of the pimp-prostitute and environment? So many clues fit it exactly that you may actually have been just like that! Unlike the typical pious then and now, where this background came up not of course as usual, were now this "house builder of Nazareth," they struck in such theocracies usual villainy and obscenities, and he has also been attacked once before as the woman because should be stoned. But in doing so he left it probably does not, he has also publicly denounced the abuses. Probably just the background and theme were his "speeches" from which we have "sermons" made, and where we will have such sayings as in the Sermon on the Mount, "Blessed are the poor in spirit", etc. in the foreground.Consider that would have because of such "Sermon on the Mount" Jesus certainly done something to hurt nobody. However, with fiery speeches against the hypocrites and Pharisees, and against sin and against the hardness of heart and for love and for the utopia of a real kingdom of God in general, instead of the existing evil theocracy - it creates it's easy enemies, especially if you also is very concrete. In any case, Jesus must have probably realized very quickly that you would have to change something quite fundamental here. We know how the dedication of Jesus went out. It even has one at the first opportunity very quickly out of the way and twisted his concern …

This picture of Giorgione (1478 - 1510) in the Art Gallery in Glasgow / Scotland is interpreted differently: "Jesus and the Sinner" or "the chaste Susanna and the young Daniel."

In one story it is therefore the woman should be stoned, because she was caught allegedly in the act of adultery, according to John 8, Jesus rescues from the clutches of their captors, saying: "He who is without one of you sin , cast the first stone ". In the other narrative want two old greedy for sex men the beau­tiful Susanna extort unfair advantage of the then customary laws for sex. If this story is presented here is at least the subject is unusual, because usually Susanna is always depicted naked, and the two old men are hiding some­where in the bushes.
I think it is possible that both reports Giorgione has definitely seen in an inti­mate relationship with each other. How was I made a book about the "Prodi­gal Son" by Rembrandt know, it seems quite early to be normal, that were sometimes seen together certain passages of the Bible in a way that we no longer are common. The two stories here, it's just around the ancient and time again same problem as women (should) be brought to the line of men or as women who do not want this to be punished. For me it is very plausible that artists recognize such relationships rather than about theology. The former are even more times critical of the system, while the latter by profession are more system-sustaining because (even if they use sometimes, no matter how "radical and revolutionary" words to explain their faith!) And, therefore, never anything suspicious do not recognize, especially the right place. Well, I'm with the first kind of people better off ...

Note: Although we know very little about Jesus, we know, above all, do not know why he was executed, but there was at that time, especially in regard to women and to the love and the partnership between man and woman really blatant abuses, was especiallyWomen are just ignorant, that they could not even develop concepts and strategies. And these abuses formally requested by someone who was interested in going on the other hand and not let up, and finally really "clean hit". The tragedy is, of course, that he (at least first times) that failed. And there are many indications that this "someone" was Jesus - Jesus, therefore, is here seen from a criminological approach her!

And then I have found another wonderful picture in which Jesus is portrayed in connection with the issue man-woman and I do not want to deprive the readers.
It is a fantastic image for gospel according to Luke 10.38-42, as Jesus is talking with a woman named Mary and her sister Martha does not like this conversation: "They moved on together, and he came to a village. A woman named Martha received him kindly. She had a sister, Maria. Mary sat at Jesus' feet and heard his words. But Martha was all it claimed to care for him. She came to him and said, 'Lord, do not you care that my sister does all the work myself alone? Tell her then to help me! The Lord replied, Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many. But only one thing is necessary. Mary hath chosen that good part, which you should not be taken. "

The picture shows Mary seated in a golden gown in the sun, the worn hands of a book, Martha is standing there in a black dress in the shadow of a ruined church (or "a broken church!") And shows with her hands on the much game and vegetables that must get prepared <too much for the three> and Jesus between them and waving his hands around and in this case has "happened" to have a proper French garden "was already a symbol of reason in 1630 - against blind faith?>).
For me, this picture also of a very different side of meaning: As my Buddhist foster daughter her graduation open work on women in Buddhism and Christi­anity, wrote, she mentioned this picture she saw on a trip with me to Antwerp in the St. Paul Church was: "In Christian churches it always looks like Jesus is talking to women, however, sees only how women are being tortured in hell in Buddhist temples ..." Well, ever seen such beautiful pictures of Jesus with women equal footing in Christian churches, too, and I took it so well with only in churches, where there is something to see. But after all, one can see such pictures ever!

"Jesus with Mary and Martha", painted around 1630 by Abraham Janssens, J. of Nuyssem called (1575-1632) that hangs in a corridor of St. Paul's Church in Antwerp.

We do not now passed on, as did Jesus actually meant a reaction, because only with a call for liberation of women from male domination legal structures, it is not even done. After all, he had seen that one should begin with the children: "Suffer the little children come to me". And in the early church was the nudity just for the baptism of the normal, indicating that the Christians than it was a completely different moral model Today we had in mind, in which the sexual morality was not different than ours today, with the usual sexual Cham seen together. The other moral model of the Christians at that time may be the reason that recognize our theologians and historians do not know what had Jesus and the early Christians in mind that "the time" that is actually a sexual morality were talking, but just before the backdrop of a more realistic model of morality.
Presumably it should be left to the followers of Jesus and to put his ideas with imagination and courage in the practice - depending on the particular circumstances, concrete, or after the respective "moral culture". - Whether Jesus is addressed against another grievance of his time, against slavery? We do not know, because we find no further details. It looks that this problem in the area of ​​Jesus, although there existed certain urgency was not so. Or it was also of Jesus more as a secondary problem - for whatever reason?

500. And now? Against the (pseudo) scientific machismo.
     Yes, because how can you call him then? Of course, this approach is still do­ing something with lies and deception, but now all it takes less underhanded and criminal to be, but is rather embellished scientifically or even as a particu­larly humane portrayed - such as the ramblings of the "sexual self-determina­tion". After all, manipulation and taboos again and again here, that was al­ways like this, one has never told the young people involved, where the real pitfalls are so they can avoid it, and even today it does not happen. What is new today is how can a thousand great reasons to substantiate even scienti­fically, were put forward by the past, only to Don Juan's, and eventually other (sex) adventurers, if they wanted to deceive the girls and women. I remember the bad sayinbg I once found in a latrine on a military training ground, "These girls are supposed to live, raise the skirt by itself, the Sr. .. ! lead with his own hand to the promised land "Now the young people will be talking about such a level that is loose around making (to put it mildly) to speak with any euphe­mistic gobbledygook official:

     - let them know "before" how's it going, and do not end at the wrong person and life are unhappy,

     - so they are not dominated by a belief that oppress them (which of course only as a super-ego is seen!) and its suppression afterwards it out on others, and something like Nazis,

     - to them according to the researches of anthropology (perhaps best "Ethnography") are as peaceful people supposedly on the Trobriand Islands and Samoa, South Pacific paradise,

     - so it lighthearted and carefree can explore their sexuality, because that is the way that they'll be free and happy people,

     - because that is especially characteristic of emancipation and self-confi­ dence when you can live out their sexuality without any restraints.

     
     And they want "it" finally - yes, girls are very often the driving forces.That all these arguments are only pseudo-science, and quite outspoken nonsense, of course, no one says. Downright angry about the alleged evidence are as heavenly living with indigenous people in the South Seas.
     Because these studies were completely unqualified, and the results are a myth.
     I mean, it's very useful to take a closer look at these "primitive people re­search" to respond.
     So, as we became more urgent when about thirty years ago a piece of infor­mation for young people about the things of sexuality, thought to himself what should be the goal of such sex education, that they should align themselves. And since it was agreed that they should be based on no account in the mar­riage morality of the Catholic Church, because the morality of a particular group can not have the claim to universal validity. Moreover, she is just too oppressive and contrary to the autonomy of the modern man.
     What should a sex education that is aligned?
     And since it worked out well that the modern field of research in studies of islanders in the South Seas had found out (allegedly) something useful about the malleability of human beings.
     Played a central role in the history of the idea of ​​progress, the inhabitants of the Trobriand islands, so the Trobriands. The American psychoanalyst Wilhelm Reich (Austrian-Hungarian origin) is now believed in his work "The collapse of sexual morality coercion - the Trobriand" based on the work of British anthropologist (Polish origin) Bronislaw Malinowski (1884-1942), the causative fusion of the private development have proved property in connec­tion with the transition from the matriarchal community (matriarchy) for patri­archal society (patriarchy) and the resulting onset of regulation of sexual be­havior in free until then.
     It appeared as if a free sexuality would be associated with peacefulness, friendliness and solidarity and equality of women.Empire and its successors - especially the student movement - of thought, therefore, with the "sexual liberation" steer the entire society into an anti-fascist, peaceful, female-friendly direction, too.To direct the progress of a change of sexual behavior in the supposedly right direction, that was her innovation of Marxism.
     To put it yet, the American anthropologist and ethnologist Margaret Mead (1901-1978), which was finally something like the American queen of Ethno­logy (or anthropology, such as anthropology in America and England) states, with their investigations further fire in the progress of hope the feasibility of the people. In her dissertation, "Coming of Age in Samoa" (in German, "Childhood and Youth in Samoa"), new and in their subsequent study of Guinea "Sex and Temperament" she showed how much different companies, if only the role of sexuality is different. Until now their study of childhood and adolescence in Samoa is one of pure standard in general circulation among the most popular "ethnic-sellers."
     Margaret Mead describes the world Samoan girl in 1925. It is largely the same, aggression and repression-free idyll in which there are no conflicts over distribution, no social pressure, no strong family ties, no excessive morality, not social conflicts. The Samoan girl brought this "casual friendly warmth" a harmonious, sexually free growth into the world of adulthood, and thus "a gradual development of their emotional life that is free from constraints" much different than in the U.S. or Europe, where the period of life ofadolescence, as Mead emphasized frequently, according to experience full of conflicts and tensions:
     "The basis of life in Samoa who made growing up so easy, so simple is the general indifference of the whole society. Because no one in Samoa is playing with high stakes, no one pays a high price that no one suffers for his convic­tions or fight to exhaustion for a particular purpose. The people are neither poor nor threatened by major disasters. No unforgiving God who is angry quickly and severely punished, disrupts the smooth flow of their days. No one is driven forward in life, or fined for slow development. "(Note: I took the quote from the website of the Erfurt anthropologist Wolf Wagner, for details see below.)
     In fact, this kind hear descriptions suspiciously like "good healer island world", hidden somewhere behind the high seas, out of sight and reach all the civili­zational alienation mechanisms that are caused by a misanthropic ideology and capitalism.
     So that was the basis of our current sex education that young people should have a free treatment of sexuality and aggression largely be equal and free of repression. No distribution struggles, no social pressure, no strong family ties, no excessive morality, not social conflicts and, ultimately, anti-fascist, peaceful and friendly lady - that was something! And all this would be achieved easily, if only the young people could express their sexual needs, how they wanted it! It would just give the young people only instructions on how they can their sexual happiness without unwanted side effects, so practicing without preg­nancies and sexually transmitted diseases. So here are the (pseudo) scientific justification is for our current sex education on the use of condoms and other contraceptives.
     The more dust swirled early 80s, the Australian anthropologist Derek Free­man - fifty-five years after the writing of Mead's "Coming of Age in Samoa". Of love, freedom, and South Pacific was in Freeman's book "Margaret Mead and Samoa" read suddenly nothing more. Instead, Freeman reported by several days of fighting between extended families, frequent rapes, cruel punish­ments, rising crime and the very restrictive nature of Samoan sexual conduct. The excessive cult of virginity so Freeman, lead again to misunderstan­dings and family tragedies. Adultery often ended in the hospital or in prison, the brothers beat too strong admirer of her sisters, wives their husbands, the lover strangled.Overshadowed everything will rank of permanent disputes in which the Samoans had an almost "obsessive interest". After the healing sounds by no means a paradise. Rather, after the bursting of a bubble.
     He writes: "All these figures indicate that Samoan girls are exposed to the onset of puberty because of the sexual mores of their society valid heaviest loads. Within their families, they are watched suspiciously and stopped to discipline. At the same time, however, they live constantly in danger, secretly sleeping with brutal violence or abuse to be ". (Note: the source is below!)
     The Englishwoman Sarah Dening has in her book "The Mythology of Sex" (London, 1996, pp. 44f) was watching a little more about how to run the beginnings of the intimate relations of the girl. In the Samoan Islands there is a status symbol for the boys, if they succeed in so many Entjungferungen as possible, and there are plenty of girls who get involved. But the girls are - at least initially - actually tricked always, if not rape, as this also happens in the world. "Certain customs are the norm in Samoa, would be an outcry cause in Western societies," writes Dening, like a boy a girl to his first sex brings: "Rape is, in fact, tacitly accepted by the way, the sleep creep is called (sleep-crawling). This implies that a young man creeps at night in the house of the girl and has sex with him, and the goal is to get hold of it and talk to him with smooth words, and with gentle persuasion. It is not about a tribute to the feelings of the girl or to any consideration. It is simply a handy trick to get it to stop from screaming that would wake the whole family. For a boy who has so much success in his quest to bring the whole prestige because he was able to "steal sex" with an unmarried girl. Whether he is otherwise interested in the girl or not is irrelevant. What matters is under the Samoan scale of values, that he managed to steal a girl's sexuality by men, whose family owned it. The youth has thus proved its strength and gained social credibility. "
     A true voluntary nature of the girl is probably never, or only very rarely involved. Actually there is also all expected to unmarried girls are virgins at marriage. And especially to the daughters of the higher Samoan families will pay attention so much. The highest is, therefore, if it succeeds to a boy, a girl that blows from one of these higher family with him.
     And again Freeman He characterizes himself in the preface of his book as a former "unconditional supporter of Margaret Mead's writings" which had, however, are beginning to realize after several visits to Samoa, that he would not be able one day to the trial, Mead's book about Samoa brought "The refu­tation of Margaret Mead's theses from the twenties, it necessarily found that I had to stick closer to the darker side of Samoan life: to refute. I believe I have now shown that the life of the Samoans, in fact, has a dark side. But how can we explain that the young Margaret Mead and the ethos of the ethnography of Samoa could distort such?Certainly to look at their inner resolve, the South Sea Islands as a paradise on earth, have contributed their part. "
     Had Margaret Mead, Samoa, have sought little too intense with the soul? Had she spotted through rose-colored glasses a Samoan, so never existed? Margaret Mead was even five years before Freeman died Samoa-book, so that she could say nothing in their defense.
     And it was not only the rose-colored glasses of the young Margaret Mead: Somewhere there is probably be in all of us, hidden between dark desire and the desire to be all behind us, a palm-fringed tropical island, a longing for freedom and irresponsibility.Thither we hasten in search of love, which is free, informal and satisfying.
     Nevertheless, Malinowski had a wife after the death of her husband published his diaries that he had made on the Trobriand Islands, from which it became clear that Malinowski was not able to participant observation.
     In all cases, the results of research of Malinowski and Margaret Mead Bronsilaw extremely problematic, they are something of a fairy tale. And even if some of them to it, then it is highly unscientific to transfer them to conditions in our highly civilized societies anonymous - how we do it. So if the basis of our sex education is not true, then it is a single seizure, however, that if we continue on.
     But all the modern sex educators hinders us today, not to teach the young people with all this paradisiacal South Seas ideas. It does not bother them that they allow the young people downright lie and deceive, if that is not also a kind of sexual abuse? What the heck, the main thing is that they get their salary for that.

So, the Catholic moral teaching?
Why not? If you consider that in fact probably all over the world in terms of marriage and love and loyalty and partnership between men and women are the same ideals, but then could the morality of a religion that sees itself as a universal, universally valid!
But something must still be some truth in all these studies, but what? Probably it is the same here as often elsewhere: is a part is correct, then something is not right and only the ideology of a particular group, as it were taken piggyback and palmed us. And surely correct that the sexual behavior in a society is related to other characteristics of people in a society. A man who is determined in his sexuality from possessiveness, which is also in the other life of possessiveness determined, and: who is loving, caring, faithful and responsible in their sexual behavior, which will be the well in real life. He thinks again about the whole person!
If the hypothesis is correct on the relationship between the "everyday life" and of sexuality, then this also means that if you want to change something in a society, then you can do it by the people in the practical use of each other as to more accountability and consideration for each other stops - if that helps. Because something is but rather seen as a moral sermon that goes in at one ear and out the other ear goes again. But is a society can change over time, by appealing to self-interest and the people leads to a success of their mental, emotional and physical love, so what can only work if there is mutual. And this success is then broadcast to the rest of life, and gild it, so to speak.
As it stands, this is also the thesis of the Bible, such as the Adam and Eve story. Especially when we consider the exact background of this story, then it's clear from seeing the author of this tale, the original sin in not successful mental, emotional and physical love - and Jesus brought into a world in which that failure to do so to speak, the norm was , or just give new hope for salva­tion.
And the idea is not the same as Ortega y Gasset, if he means what dream girl in her "chaste chambers," for holding influential on the world's history than what the military can do with all their weapons?
Of this approach is based on this book too! We provide a success of the mental, emotional and physical love, and we catch it on to the young people who do not have anything going on! And because of the charisma of the other areas of life that is also a highly political approach! And do not worry at the "older semesters': Who is committed to the success of the life of others, which will themselves benefit from it! This benefit does, however, more like the joy of a child who feels good. It exudes something that even those who run it to this joy, have something!
So this would also mean young people for a return back to the classic "Catholic morality" that sex and marriage collapse again?But what about the possibility of painful defloration process of the spoils but then again the experience on their wedding night?
To say this: This painful defloration happened namely if and only if at all, if something with the unity of body and soul is not right, so especially for a first sexual intercourse, which occurs in about "testing grounds". But if the unity of body and soul is right - and that was also the sense of the process with female sexuality, to determine - it can be, especially in the "wedding night" itself not a major pain really hurt! Because then it is a pain almost the ultimate thrill of the experience - is welcome as for example in an intoxicating music of the pain of the ear drums.
And again: With body and mind hostility and hostility with possessiveness, that is to have another, just as it has been practiced mostly by "moral man", real good and morality has nothing to do. And if we look just a bit more detail, it is also not in the sense of the founder of this religion. When it comes to a morality that will be useful and should work, but we must do something about it!
Notes: This is not to say that responsibility and consideration for others and ultimately charity work only if the sexual behavior is similar. Let us think of the factory owner Oskar Schindler (the hero in the film "Schindler's List"), who was said to be a true womanizer, so in terms of love rather was quite superficial. But such people can perform well even in extreme situations very high human services, simply because they are daring, playful and creative than the typical good men. It is not least also a concern of this book, that the good people are more alert!
And yet the very practical dimension of the concept expressed in this book: If people feel more responsibility and care for each other and practice, it means quite a relief of the state budget! Just the cost of the state as for maintenance of women with children, where are the fathers of their responsibility withdrawn, are not irrelevant, they amount to several billion euros per year. These costs would be removed, yes.
To the background: I have taken mainly the contribution of the Erfurt anthro­pologists Wolf Wagner from the Internet with his kind permission, but which it no longer exists on the Internet. But you can find on the Internet under "Derek Freeman." And we also read in the "new lexicon of popular errors" by Walter Krämer, updated paperback edition, October 2000, "Samoa" the same ... The South Seas idyll is so long since refuted. And yet our sex education continues to this model, which does not exist in reality. And they call that "science", but I would describe it as "full of pseudo-scientific"!
The question naturally arises, why has all this way? Of course, think-desire! And if someone who is not a diet, and despise it with the sexual morality not taken very seriously and believe they can rely on this research in some primitive people, then he's fine out.So is this reason alone are not interested in a closer look!

And if that's all but said the Catholic moral doctrine corresponds why then is taken straight from the Catholic side not really relevant to the question?
If "church people" hear something about ethics, then they always associate immediately with the "ought" or even "must", so with some force. And therefore they are against it, because faith is a gift of grace for them and may never have anything to do with coercion.So can people not in church ethics come first, then ethics would rather not ...
But ethics is in this concept here with absolutely nothing you want / need to do! By comparison, if a mother cares for her child, is not that you want / need. She does it simply for the love you!
It's the same here. But that ethics have something to do with fun and pleasure and can therefore do nothing by force, and that it only requires a different mo­ral model, the church people can not understand it, is this somehow inconcei­vable.
The question then naturally arises: What are these only for men?
The churches have resigned themselves that they can change anything here, and have withdrawn to the positions of faith and forgiveness. And to what is going on, they say, "Where are people, there's human touch" or apologizing: "You can do against the power of the media anyway nothing" or "That's all very different today," or "When the hormones go crazy, that's just the nature and against which it is now powerless once .."! (Note: These are the same people who speak otherwise of free will!) In any case they fail, the good times (ie the "Kairos") to use, giving young people Concepts true Christian morality as an open-minded morality can live. And they would also have the opportu­nity to do so, because they are not, where young people can be trusted, long before puberty, I am thinking here of the first communion or confirmation classes so that they will be taught in terms of their lifestyle thing?But things are not supposed moral their task, they are "only" responsible for belief in God, whatever they mean (real Christian faith as followers of Jesus can surely not be!), Everything else has them rather indifferent!
And it is really so, for just this purpose was not specifically important, as I was the Church's teaching license revoked. In any case, these missing "people of the churches" of any will and any creativity and imagination to any one con­cept of how to do something about it that young people "sins" committed not only!Yes, they just seem to even the appropriate information for young people, who after all would be for them an urgent need to fear as the plague and hinder them, wherever they can! It looks already almost as out as if there is a conspiracy between the church and the people "villains" ...
And: Of course I know that not all "church people" are, but to prove their set­ting, should those who do not want to belong to you please take care appro­priate that at least once before their better attitude is spreading!
Yes, maybe you have this book even a "church people" or get out of it by a "church people"?
Then it's probably also true that others have experienced it. And the more young people learn about it, the better the chances that young people today can live on these ideas.

Conclusion of the "old religion teacher": In which religion is really about the love of freedom?

The great Russian writer Fyodor Dostoevsky makes in his novel "The Grand Inquisitor" in a fictional ("imaginary") story of the rebel Jesus capture.
Jesus is accused of the worst crime of all time, namely freedom of reckless promise to mankind that it is not able to achieve. That should have been aware of God's son and he is therefore to be punished with death by fire. To make this clear to the exiles back to him and his imminent execution at the stake to announce the grand inquisitor goes to the prisoners in the dungeon. In the presence of the Saviour, he muses now silent about the bitterness of his existence as a good shepherd of men, a freedom which has been talking to but they are not naturally capable of. He, Jesus, would have incited the people to rebellion, they persuaded a tale of their own emancipation, where he should have know that the vast majority of people simply lack the necessary maturity. It is now the sacred task of the Catholic Church, for the love of people and in the name of Jesus, the man only relevant godly restore order and from then on - if necessary - draconian methods to protect them from rebel shock.
Here, the Grand Inquisitor, a fundamental contradiction between God the Father and the Holy Spirit on the one hand and the rebellious son constructed on the other. Believe in the Holy Spirit is to believe in God's active power and strength in humans and the world. The Holy Spirit is the active power of God in man. But Jesus goes on to this active power and promises another active power, one in freedom, based on his message of love. That he keep this promise given against his better judgment can not, however, thus creates unrest, an unrest, which has infinite misery is the consequence, in the opinion of the Grand Inquisitor, a capital offense, because thousands and thousands go out based on cruel.A frivolous promises that are only good for a small elite of those capable can, however, is given at all is criminal in itself, because it guides to self harm and undermine the social order.
To put it short: Jesus is the view that man is inherently good and only needs the freedom to allow this goodness can also develop.But the Grand Inquisitor deny this natural goodness and insists that he knows the people better, and this does not really capable of being good and just the whip (the whip) needs.
So Jesus taught the wrong thing!
And now this necessary correction of the Christian Gospel through Christian churches have to be yourself!
Of course, this story is a seal, but they do not compress the concern of Jesus on the essentials?

Consequence of the "old religion teacher"

I must confess, I have this old religion teacher, used to be thought of as or similar to the Grand Inquisitor! I also said that the commandments of God by force and coercion and fear could be enforced. And because the church today lacks the power to do, so it works well is no longer with commandments. This was also always an excuse for me if I "get The Creation" on me, especially the commitment to withdraw on any green and environmental projects.
But this little girl who had asked me in the teaching of religion, has finally brought me out that I was wrong! The commandments of God are so clear and so practical, and live happily making that people would only live to be happy, even if they only knew, what sense they have in life!
Also, I had once thought that the dehumanizing ends are always the others, and even the other religions and cultures. Because only the sale but their daughters into prostitution, or put them under veils and cut her genitals, depending on the role of women in their possessiveness!
But I have since realized that we must not get excited about other so quickly, but should return only once before our own doors. Because we do not really train to freedom. Here, the would often rather well, when I think about these two little girls at that time on the beach, Sylt.
Yes, other cultures, we can not fool even a little, at least in some things!
These two examples again, a very different kind, this time from Africa, that I have personally experienced:
I was taking a summer vacation trip with an old car parcel by Nigeria and Cameroon on miserable roads, so I wanted to sell the car in the coastal city of Douala. When I here once in a bush restaurant a "broth" was eating (the soup pot with the ox-bone hung behind the house on a large tripod over an open fire), there was a 15-year-old girl to me and asked if it and its sister I could ride to the grandparents a few kilometers away. As I promised, I asked the girl, they both claim from the parents, and it also showed me the house. That's what I did, of course, only too happy, but I could shoot it once with a clear conscience people!
Yes, what was so special and here - as I was - even the intelligent and emancipated? We would be something unthinkable, no, hitch a ride with a stranger, never, ever, including an absolute ban for the daughters. But here in Africa, there is obviously no such prohibition, but only the rule, if the daughters do have something that they should do that too intelligent. So what did the girl? It made sure that I could get to know the parents that they saw my car, got an idea from me! And if they should happen to me through something bad, they would already know who they could report to the police (namely, "the man in the yellow van"). Just imagine how bad it would have happened to me!
And so I had a similar experience once again on the same trip. Since I was an old man behind the bush and came out a young woman who would only go with me. And for the man pushed me even a little money in hand, probably the usual fare. So somehow the same as with the two girls.
What would it look for us? We indeed the per-pickup-driving parents would be absolutely forbidden. And what will happen at some point maybe once, when the girls are tired from a disco totally, all the money ran out and it still raining? Then they rise at some point but in a car, and enjoy just about everything wrong. For instead of watching how they do it sensibly, that know about others with whom they have entered, they only think about the ban and that of their per-pickup-driving around nobody knows about. Yes and sometimes bad things happen because the guy feels safe because no one has seen.
So should we not have to think again, not just in education with prohibitions or defeatism of reason in law to act innocuous, but which we take the young man only reasonable and necessary experience in human nature? Let's talk with the young people about our concerns and what is important and how they can do it right, if it was even necessary! It would be nice to the young people can do much to give them much to explain here. Yes, why not even father and daughter on a nude beach? There is an age of girls (before puberty), because they long for such almost father-daughter harmony. As the father might say, "Well you see, no lightning hits you, or otherwise a shock if you ever see a naked man, not raped or bites you, and you do not want to bite or attack someone, something to do to him ! So it's all nonsense, what is taught in this direction in our civilization cultures to young people. It matters a lot more on the state of mind, whether you have ideals of love and of the partnership and whether it wants to keep these ideals, and can radiate even well to others.
And why do we have all these otherwise ordinary education to shame, cover up so if it helps for a real morale nothing and often only a superficial sign of modesty, but so long ago is not true of morality? First of all: It is this fear of shame means, and indeed pointless, and senseless fears are factors in the game of power and impotence in a society. But what really happens to the net falling to the wrong partner and how to find the high level of love that says nobody, not even the religion. Unfortunately, God is always a source of income, people living at it. And it also happens to be quite profitable, the people who just had bad luck in love or have or in which at least everything is not as successful or was to comfort and to put off for a better life after death. And it can easily become a business model and thinking in such a model eventually blocked by the leaders of every proper thinking, if it is not yet practical possibilities of improvement here and now is the source of income.
And of course, is certainly not the problem of sexual and Chamberlin questioned whether she really has a benefit for a high sexual morality. Above all, it would then also, at least for the time an extremely risky ice to the trust no one so easily, as when old men - and priests and theologians are, after all, especially old or at least older men - recommend to young girls nudity. So you think here not only after, here there is another and perhaps even more crucial mental block just for really well-meaning church people. It would be with the nudity in relation to our Christian faith, not even that far-fetched: In the early church baptized not only naked, but there were those to be confirmed for a full body anointing, which undertook the bishop! But all this is completely suppressed at the time. More on the role of Jesus later on there!
Of course, not everyone who sets out to be so also equally free and emancipated. But truly free and liberated people have no problem with nudity - could feel naturally only where it is appropriate and will not be misunderstood and do not provoke people who do not know the background.
My advice to you: If you learn to know a friend, then first of all those seeking freedom and harmony with him, so that you first of all the innocent paradise (he) lives. And part of it too, that you can talk to each other about everything and that he understands you. I mean, then you will see both that it already has a meaning, if marriage and sexual intercourse are a unit.
Here are some tips: Unless you know someone really well, I always recommend some kind of public, as here with us. Because the public is always a good protection, but then when it turns out to be an idiot. And if it does not have a nude beach, then it does indeed include a sauna, you inquire for a reasonable price. And the boys are okay, make it happy with, somehow it's also a reward for the girl if so naturally deal with them. Yeah, somewhere it must be worth something special for the boys if they are correct to the girls, and not least the good men have indeed come from somewhere! And remember thinking: The boys have reasonably the same problem as the sensible girl to find a decent partner!
We will also need to constantly aware that man is a moral being, so he needs a sexual ethic. Because after all you have to decide what moral you want to live - the high morale, so that you're living it, or the moral fabric, so that it looks like you're morally. "
Yes, we have something very close to the young people make sense only! And the same goes for the sexual morality!
And if we do it right, then is also true that no longer hold, what religions and cultures especially by women and girls, namely that it is not to be faithful and therefore are not capable of great love.
No, no, I can hear now the voices against me, but this is the great exception, young girls to enjoy their nakedness to educate, no, as far as education can not really go for freedom! Here they are involved in something that simply does not work because it "general moral sense" contradicts ...
All I can say now, everything is blah, here's fears and prohibitions as yet! Nudity of children, especially the little girl makes most adults, after all just scared! And we can see that we are no better than this alleged primitive cultures, which we think ourselves so much superior - and ahead of us have some rationality and some common sense.
If the fig leaves to cover the sex is not the curse of Cham, that sexuality is not practiced in the real sense - and this should not be terminated by Jesus curse? Of course, not wishful thinking alone, we must conduct ourselves as such!
To the woman-friendliness of the religions (and cultures) otherwise:
Sure, if you ask their followers, they are all for the women and talk about their rights and how they all like precious gemstones are treated. But if we look closer, they all revolve like the cats around the bush. Yes, externally they all say that women are good that they are capable of emancipation and freedom. But obviously they believe themselves not really believe. Some religions go before the start of fears and compulsions, if the women are circumcised, being forced into shreds, so that they sometimes look like scarecrows deterrent, or if they are forced to marry as soon as possible. And the other religions, such as our current Christianity, are of such a setting not so far away. Why else do you think with us, that it is only possible with the application of a Versteckerei in clothes and with faith in any un-believable or hard truths of the belief as a Trinity, and in life after death? And because this Versteckerei and this belief is not working now, and because we no longer have the power of the Grand Inquisitor, that just as the girls join in, so you have given up. Now what does that mean another when they say for the life of the practice of girls and women that they should use condoms?
And this Jesus was really the only other! He was the only one - including those of religious founders - who believed in the goodness and the girls and women and had seen through what is behind the moral posturing just the men, and that it is not done with the forgiveness of a supposedly become sinful woman but that the male legal system must be fundamentally changed. He did not stop even profess to play in that he is for the women, but he has committed so clearly that he has paid his bet with his life after all - that exists in no other religion else Yes, this is used For me the proof that the message of Jesus is the only true religion.
Finally, I would like to come back to the Egyptian Alia Magda Elmahdy (see Preface). They protested against the hypocrisy with regard to sexual morality in their country. I hope to have made plausible that even with us, nothing is really better. My Vietnamese foster daughter once said that what young people would be with us even taught in school education in Vietnam as prostitution is true, with a morality of the "great love" have to do anything anyway.
But the historical Jesus, it was surely just around the, so we do something about it! Whether I have you now motivated to at least a little? I would be very happy!
Greetings
Kerpen, in May 2012
Your old religion teacher

Summary (as per the flyer for this book - and with additional thoughts)

One reason for this brochure was that had a student (17) out of two friends about their first sexual intercourse. And the two were not happy with it. In one ran away after the lover, the other ran away to the Lover. When the student was now in the Internet Connect, and even hear a different opinion than usual, because they voted for something not obvious, they came across the website www.basisreligion.de. This has not, with the author, a retired religion teacher, an extensive email exchange shown on the sense and nonsense of the hitherto conventional morality, and a model is actually very plausible, practical and proven successful alternative.And it was then, this brochure. Everything here in brief:

The previous model of morality comes from a time when some parents, who married the young people whom.
According to this model it is assumed that they "preserve" just for the young girls can be educated by them to shame. However, the author has made during his thirty years of teaching experience that young people today get through the shame only a fear of nudity in front of the objective-and-about speeches. And finally, they confuse it with shyness even morality.
Sexual intercourse before marriage, however, quite different with men to keep girls even essential, in order to find the right partner, and did not see this as immoral.
The crucial question we must first ask ourselves is, however: What is true morality: the fear of nudity or a functional concept, only with the sex or the "right" to have?
To be clear: If you see this with the reluctance to be correct, then you are with the following, however, have their difficulties, because the author has been looking for an ethically viable approach to youth on the version of "Sex with or right "set and calls it" high morale ". However, he keeps the issue of fear of a side issue, talking about it and if necessary we can even throw overboard. For him, the sexual Cham is already more of a hypocrisy. In contrast, the nudity just for girls to identify ideal, more precisely, who they have the right to a cream puff or a protector, whom she can confide. Of course, this knowledge must also girls really want!

Impossible for these "high morale" in our time?
The author sees this not so, because when we define something clearly and then we determine that we want it really should not be why there are ways to achieve this?
Thus, the question here: What if the girls about the energy they expend in order to live out their shame and to defend, inserting it to live a "high morale" and defend?
Why should not that be possible? We've got over 100 years with us a naked body movement. And it is not known to the people who go along with it, are somehow messed or sexist than people who do not participate there.
Of course: The young people have a different education from the start, with a meaningful moral model in the background get! So you should have especially noticed by her family learned that nudity alone is nothing wrong.

And what about the whole thing with the Christian faith has to be done?
First: the traditional Christian doctrine is a relic of pagan antiquity.
If our Christian faith is largely incomprehensible in this day and age for many people and superstitious may appear, then there is the main reason is that he is a relic of pagan antiquity, with the typical myths of the gods, who at that time in Egypt, Babylon, Greece,Rome was and even today are in India. Yes, at that time (and even in India today) were the gods of the virgin birth stories of the torturous death and resurrection of the son of a god, not everywhere, but in one way or another culture certainly exists. And the ascension of the Son of God, who sits also at the right hand of God the Father, and where then also added a God of the mind, so that we have before us a trinity, were or are there also. And in thinking this has to be Jesus of Nazareth fit. So he came to the people at that time better, because they could only imagine such a Savior, also disillusioned after his death by torture. After all, the stories about Jesus until many decades, even partially written over a hundred years after his death - and these stories will be no record in the modern sense, but produce faith. And it worked best with just the stylistic devices of the time, mostly to say to us today but nothing more, and we now feel even more than old-fashioned superstition.

But what really happened? What was so special about Jesus?
What were the problems of the people at that time?
The former companies, especially in the East were still exactly the same legal societies men (or macho societies), as now, much like the Taliban or even the culture of Saudi Arabia. Let us look at the history was in John's Gospel of the sinful woman who allegedly caught in the act of men, convicted under the former legislation and dragged to his execution. Of men, all of which were not without sin, who had also done the same thing as this woman, as it turned out the specific question of Jesus. There was but certainly not a question of forgiveness as us which is now made to believe! What it was played here? Rather, it went well so as to admit of an unruly woman as a warning to men for other women an example.
The author now sees Jesus as an outsider, the others from his encounters with women out of friendship - among them prostitutes - especially questioned the then male-female traditions and also wanted to humanize them. And because that's what Jesus came simply in the then male-dominated society to unfamiliar and too revolutionary, he was the one not properly understood and exploitation by others out of the way. That is why the Gospels were written after all under a very different aspect, namely how you imagined a common religion, now, though certainly better than previously known.

The commitment of Jesus "against sin, against the hypocrisy of love" for a better world is still current - also with us today!
Yes, that's really better for us? Or is this just different from us? Let's say, for us girls to be like "willingness" really educated.
Previously had girls who "just happen" were pregnant, often as a punishment and a deterrent for others in the kitchen, sleeping on the floor, or they would if they were servants dismissed. We felt this was the only way to teach other girls morality, because they obviously thought was stupid girls and unpredictable. And if we give to young girls today, especially information condoms, etc., which means it is not that we still have the same attitude, that we are stupid and incompetent and unpredictable for a "high morale"?
Yes, if that is not a "self-fulfilling prophecy" is, because it is assumed someone something, so he is the same. Logically, that you then have no more trouble thinking and worrying about a concept, so it could be different! Finally, it has only too happy when the girls are voluntarily available to men - and those who do sell the best, even if often not much behind it. If this is not just a machismo is like at the time of Jesus and in the Oriental countries today - but just slightly modified? After watching that men beautiful girl, that's understandable. That one girl, however ignorant and they can still teach the model of hypocrisy, that they also participate in Sichzurverfügungstellen more willingly because they believe that they are now modern and enlightened - if not the perfect machismo!

The author now claims, especially about his experiences as a teacher of girls, that the equal rights of men and women is so far gone completely to the needs of girls in terms of sexuality over.
It is precisely in sexuality, the girls initially to fit the male (or even the phallic-oriented) sexuality, when they see the invasion as the only way to gain sexual experience. That they conduct in connection with this trial eventually suffer more trauma, who are aborting, or breaking of such "special intimate relationship" now, where even talking about "before" No one with them. So look on the young girl's situation does not in general. A sexuality that takes into account the female sensibility, or the feminine soul, so a female sexuality might see - at least initially - totally different.

Fun on the morale and self-esteem and morality - is that possible?
The author has some "girl with experience," however, assure credible if they had known what was with all the sex on her, it would have been no problem for them not to open her legs. But she had wanted sex so explicitly, "because it was just too stupid," one of the girls also said: "I had been talking all this uptight morals just tired"
Because everything new starts at the beginning, girls were just here a true self-consciousness. You should stop, take part in this male sexuality too readily. Instead, they should first bring their female sexuality through the game and set.
There is still a wide spectrum: joy of mutual nudity, cuddling each other in all possible positions, different positions of skin contact, mutual shaving of body hair, and everything in various combinations ... If a girl appeals to all this with a partner and he is otherwise a good comrade, then realizing it is, what is the point to start the sexual intercourse only with one who is he a real life partner.
And that would be as nothing: After the holidays, "seamlessly brown" and perhaps "shaved" - and this especially proud virgin!
The advantage of this approach is that the girls "get involved" in using such an approach can be interesting men with whom marriage is not likely come into question and they can learn new things so thoroughly. They can join as a more or less unusual journey - without having to be annoyed after having to have them paid with their acceptance of sex far too expensive - perhaps even with a venereal disease or unwanted pregnancy.

Sandwiches and yet non-consistent model of morality in the early church!
As far as we can tell, it must be in the early church just went to a renewal in this sense, which indeed is a kind of "resurrection". Yes, the resurrection in the sense of awakening of nature after hibernation - or even out of hibernation! Let us consider first of all, that there were particular women and slaves, then, that the oppressed in a society of men who accepted Christianity in particular. And we can easily see that at that time nudity and sex have never seen so belonging together, as we today are still very often do so gladly, because although these oppressed were then baptized stark naked, just the girls died under them when they about to get married were forced, but then rather than give up her virginity.
The usual theologians now see in these "girls coerced" the cause of death in the love of Christ. But if we look at the old martyr narratives closer, then it may be that the girls might not always be a virgin and her death from the "love of Christ" did. Because we also learn that these "martyrs girls" did not marry the men forced upon them: How is the death of even more evident today. If a girl has once internalized the ideal of a great love and partnership (and this internalization may indeed result from quite an encounter with the ideas of Jesus!), Then it may be possible that it might rather die rather than to the ideal to be destroyed by one man or even imposed by forced sex!
Anyway, this old martyr stories may well be an indication that the Christian faith was originally seen as a belief in equal rights, heavenly man-woman relationship - in the sense of a truly revolutionary youth religion.

Why not today?
Especially today when we die, but not a girl do if it wants to live a concept of love and partnership within the meaning of Jesus - "against sin, against the hypocrisy, for the love". Therefore, this commitment here that young people realize not only the usual phallic-oriented concept, which ultimately goes but to the penis and penetration, but know at least by a female concept, so they get to know an alternative and have a real choice. Everything else is still manipulation!

Epilogue - especially for educators and theologians.

Much may indeed sound in the concept of this book confusing, at least at first sight! Yes, why I do it?
1. The theological reason I have described on page 33. This line of thought in Paul in Romans is probably the earliest Christian theology. Yes, who was then compared to that Adam - Jesus?Whether Paul has been found when he came to the early Christians that Jesus still knew? Anyway, I compared this to the key issue seems to be the historical Jesus. And so it is very plausible but then also a bow to what today is running at us so.

2. Against the presented by me approach it is argued repeatedly in a similar fashion: "Your model of" female sexuality "and the" chivalrous macho "comes to me very theoretical, I can not imagine that it remains in this interesting game!" (to quote a friend). Then my answer: I've struggled through the recommendation of this game in many, many years ... I come here again and again on the theory that it is precisely the young man is a highly moral being - and that the girls start having sex more out of necessity, because they know nothing else and unfortunately some experience now even have to be alleged. I've also learned that the implementation works in practice before al also because the boys support such a concept, the girls definitely. After all, by no means the only "traffic" in the head, but something must have been! I hope that I have the latest in the version (ie the present) is written clearly enough. In any case, had all the girls (and young women) who told me about her first experience, not something in my head what I recommend, seeing as the only way, only the sex - or they were completely without concept. So why not a meaningful concept?
   More than once I've heard of women and girls that have done such a (doctor) games, too, but that was before so no one said so, it looks just nobody in charge!

3. Unfortunately, the impression is coming more and more as if the majority of teachers and theologians consistently marriage morals (which give the possibility of true love is with a partner, that is also a restraint over others) want to give all else fails just the young people or can. I have tried time and again that there is a conversation, I'm also open to other functional concept, etc. - no chance, for any reason whatsoever. The soft of all - at least when the going gets interesting when it comes to the So putting it into practice, there are very-very rare exceptions. And I believe now that this high sexual morality is deeply human, they would have to be also present as attractive - that young people read something on their own and give to others.
   In addition I have now an interesting experience: A 11-year-old girl, the daughter of friends with whom I could talk about the issues brought me back to our conversation a completely dog-eared "Bravo" with, in just a naked girl and a naked boy were shown. This means that the "Bravo" was long gone by children to children's hands - and that the adults knew nothing about it for sure. This I say therefore to maintain that everything that I write, children are not even interested. Well, you can even fool some! Anyway, I think of this Bravo magazine - why is not something positive for once be so attractive that young people spread the word among themselves?When it comes to but deeply human longings? And you may see some Deutlichkeiten in the concept from the viewpoint that there should be any talk of young people, should stand out so!

4. Affirmatively for my approach seems to me a different quote from Ortega y Gasset's book "On Love" (page 48f): "The woman on the other hand is an instinct to hide and conceal, her soul lives were, with his back to the world and hiding their inner personal fermentation. The sign of shame, only the symbolic form of mental chastity. Strictly speaking it is not the woman to defend her body from the male gaze, but her ideas and feelings in relation to the intent, the husband has the respect of her body .... A girl of fifteen Lenzen cares more secrets than an age and a woman of thirty guards dangerous arcana (Note: the Tarot card decks) as a head of state ".. Now I have a couple of times girls at that age (or 15) or a little older asked to help me but at my book, so it is good. We could talk about, what to write what they want or expect from the boys.Because then I could write the pure, and they could give the finished book with an innocent look at boys on, so to speak "their desires hidden behind the cover of the book of another." And I began to make proposals. But interestingly, there was never-thing.It could be that Ortega y Gasset was absolutely right that the girls have a kind of secrets that relate especially to a man, in this case me, they just embarrassed ... (A young woman told me, however, but a little of it, so I am just come up with the idea of ​​female sexuality. This case, these women needs to move safely tend towards harmless "doctor game", but in fact completely legitimate!)that girls do not dare to express them and put them into practice, but only the stupid moral fault model, in which they are educated and we all live by!

5. Again and again, the objection that I do this all too complicated, but it was all very simple: The young people would only believe in Christ as the Son of God and his salvation in the resurrection, the Trinity, or the creation. If we had namely the recognition of a higher spiritual world, then would fill us so that we have everything just right, to love God, obey the commandments, etc. Everything else would then produce its own.
   This is a typical theological setting to educate, then we may have little nuns and monks, but few people conscious men and women and good husbands and good wives. And how should religious people are actually watching the young? Can we not always say that they were just not religious enough, but then if they did not all the way it presents the Church?
   But whether I am still a Catholic with my setup? On the surface I'm sure it does not according to what you normally think of as a Catholic.
   But: it is good Catholic doctrine that the Church recognizes the obligation of natural law, that our religion and our God require nothing of us, which is against our human nature. And that surely means that a morality that is not lived voluntarily, because it simply is not attractive and no fun, is not Catholic?
   I am however entirely different set: Indicates a "high morale", that is the morality that leads to "love high" is, above all, that she is attractive by itself. And you stick to it for that reason alone, because you'll miss something in life. Sure, they must be taught accordingly. Because you can not teach the best and most sensible so bad that it spoiled by his teaching so that no one wants to have more?
   The reader must now decide what is more Catholic (and also not in the best sense, ecumenical Christian) is the belief in any dogma, which obviously do not even have to do with the real Jesus, or what to do after a morality which by itself is attractive and concerns should be exactly this Jesus was.
   I imagine our problem with this before about morals so if it were a question of educating good drivers who do not build more accidents.
   The "theological concept" would be to make such a cult of the inventor of the car, so to Gottfried Benz. We build so churches and chapels with the Mercedes star and dense songs in honor of the car god GB, making services in which symbolically drove a car , rosaries with beads in the form of car and make processions, on the car God help us to avoid accidents. Otherwise we are talking not about accidents and mishaps, especially how to avoid, because these topics are taboo.
   The "naturalistic approach" is first and foremost a qualified accident research, then driving school car driving training in icy conditions, good cars with airbags and ABS, no alcohol, etc. And cult? Incorrect display-! Spun once more and that this "car god" really existed: he would certainly be a cult around him completely indifferent. For in his mind would be that cars are getting better and that we take reasonable car. And if that happens, is also looking forward to the ... And who but for such a cult would be that would come quickly to the suspicion that he forged with the repair shops and clinics a conspiracy because of the repairs or medical treatment is to earn more than sensible cars and a reasonable driving schools.
   In such an improper manner to approach a task, is also such as dealing with the medicine until the early modern period. They thought so, that health and disease with the work of God or the devil's just too connected. And it was to influence God or the devil through prayer or by any magical or ritual (magical) means to the good forces could develop their effectiveness and the evil forces were losing their effectiveness. And only when one of this magical thinking was abandoned and objectively about health and sickness care, there was a revolution in medicine. This revolution is in the sexual morality of yet.
   Let's do it!

Furthermore, I beg you to consider that I have not really written anything now "just happen" as I sometimes seem to imply some critics. I know at least roughly the religious critique of Marx and Freud, the criticism of the Church by Gerd Lüdemann, by Uta Ranke-Heinemann, of Drewermann: The critics of the last two are quite good, but their solutions are really weak, and Lüdemann comes first not a solution. Of course, I also have the problems of historical Jesus research known to Rudolf Bultmann, Albert Schweitzer. And I also counsel with members of alternative churches, friends and visitors with Internet, including a feminist. Important to me also about the educational novel "Emile" by Jean-Jacques Rousseau, Aldous Huxley's nightmare "Brave New World" and Ernst Bornemann "Patriarchy" were. I've tried to incorporate all that into account and - on the one hand not to offend and to use other plausible evidence or to be so clear that critics simply nothing factual to be able to say it

This brochure is a working copy! At the discussion on the concept, you can join, see www.michael-preuschoff.tk. The book is also available at www.liebeundsex.tk. The underlines indicate words in the online encyclopedia, to this concept. Contact: see Kontakt

About the author: Michael Preuschoff, born 1941, a reserve officer, industrial manager at an electric company, studied theology at the Jesuit University of Frankfurt / M. and the theological faculties of the Universities of Innsbruck and Münster, Diploma and theologian from 1975 to 2004 worked as a religion teacher at vocational schools in the district and the district of Düren Erft.

Individual journeys (ie more likely alternative) except in the European coun­tries nor in the Near, Middle and Far East, North Africa and Central and North, Central and South America.

Multiple Santiagopilger - in sections. In this "Camino", the author provides an excellent opportunity especially for a retired religion teacher, with other peop­le, and come with young, in touch. It may very well be talking about the reali­zation of our religion in our time, after all, the Camino is indeed a Christian pilgrimage. What are the implications for our lives resulting from the current knowledge about the historical Jesus? Anyway, this book talks that have given significant impetus.
Preuschoff is unmarried and was never married. However, he has a Vietna­mese foster daughter who is married.

And the book: Who is using a sexual moral education for young people are employed, which can easily determine: the young people have a panic fear of nudity, but - and this is especially true for girls - they seem to have no problem having sex with differentpartners to have. Here, the nudity - with the right people at the right place - but be quite a harmless pleasure, while the sex experience often not so harmless, sometimes takes a trauma to themselves and often really an entry into a career as a sex object is First, at least once. From a moral high love in any case there can be no more talk.

The author will now not accept the fact that this is all just so, and that nothing can be done, but he looks at why this is so, and introduces a concept of how it can be reversed. He is a well-founded and plausible sexual morality of the great love that the young man prepares even pleasure, self-awareness brings people and has an excellent knowledge effect for them. The point here is a useful contemporary moral model.

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